Dear Diary ☀️
The Summer is here, and is really time for “prepering” our home for our guestes🛫🛏,- and the first summerguestes is coming on Sunday- evening from Norway. This time its not guestes to me, but to my children 😊.
We have had some guestes since this Easter,- but it has been more like “drop-by-guestes” for a night or two. And we has been able to have “our normal daily rutines” in between😊,- because thats not always easy when its different guestes from week to week, or weekend to weekend during the summertime ☀️.
Emma is now “young adult ” so she more or less take care of her guestes on her own. They don’t give me to much “work” at all. I just need to clean the guest-room, find clean towels, change the guest-bed, – and the bathroom Emma needs to take care of her self 😅. She and our guestes is sharing her bathroom,- but not her mess 😉😊.
Of course I buy in some extra food and snacks to the teenagers, and preper my mind to maybe be a bit more taxi-driver then “normal”🚕.
Emma and her friends does different activities without me “hanging around “. But we live a bit fare a way from the beach, so normally Im picking them up when they are finish at the beach. Its okay to walk down to the beach, but its a bit heavy to walk back and up home in the heat ☀️.
They find breakfast and luch on theier own, and maybe we eat dinner together,- if the teenagers not already are “fare away” for something else and a bit more fun then spending time with the “old” mammi 😉
The summer and the sun is ready for our summerguestes ☀️🏖
Its always great to get good friends over to visit us here in Spain 💛,- and during the last years we are been much better to also say “no” to some “guestes” as well. Unfortunately its always some one that just want to have a free “holiday inn” to stay in,- and actually abuses our hospitality,- but its not so many of them any more than it was the first years we did live in Spain.
We are very hospitality,- we want our friends and family to feel very welcome to our home,- and we try to do our best so they feel welcome,- and want to come back- just because its “us” 😊,- not just because we live in Spain 😉.
“Drive-rules ” 😉🚗
We, or I did needed to create different “drive-rules ” to our guestes during the last years,- if not we, special me, was going to be exhausted.
I cant take out holiday for 10-12 weeks during the year,- its economic impossible. (if I have the possibility to have holiday, I have holiday when the “guest-session” is over- I probably need a holiday more then….😊). That means,- I need to work, do my job, earn my salary. I try to change my working-time as best as I can,- so I m avable to spend some “quality time” with my friends when they are here.
But I cant be a “chef” and preper breakfasts and lunches every day, I cant be a “cleaning-lady”, or a “guide” or “entertainer”. They are not living in a hotel,- but in a home 😊. They are visiting me,- but I need to work now and then,- and cant be a “hotel” during the summer-session for over 12 weeks.
Normally my friends do understand this and are “self-propelled”,- that means they are able to do things on theier own. Like go to the pool, go for shopping, take day-trips to different places like Gibraltar, Ronda, Sevilla, Granada ect. Or visit the beach. Go to the zoo or the water-park, or other “activities” 😊. Its not because I dont want to,- but I cant effort it and I dont have time for it- 12 weeks is a bit😊😉.
Of course I m joining my friends now and then as well ,- but I cant do this things week after week, weekend after weekend. 24/7 for 12 weeks. We also need to try to keep our “daily life and rutines” ss best we can when we have guestes.
Normally my friends do understand this,- but of course there also are some “souls ” that think I m “rude” that dont “priority” my time “correctly” when I have guestes. This people are, sorry to say this,- not to welcome,- and they dont see “our situation”…..and had probably not manage to do the same for us anyway- if the situation was opposite 😉. Its not for “everyone” to live like this 😊😉.
I really do understand it is “exciting” to visit us in Spain-and we really like to have guestes- that understand “our life-situation” during the summertime☀️ 😉.
Its nice, and fun, and great to see my friends again. But also a bit busy 😊,- and I want to distribute all my good and positive energies💛💚 to all my guests and friends, and not spend it on just one or two 💛.
And we cant trun our life up-side-down for 12 weeks ☀️.
The beaches is ready to welcome our good, good friends from Norway 💛
During this soon 6 years in Spain I have actually thrown out one guest 😩😨. It was 4 years ago. I did think I did knew this person during 15 years, but I forgot that it was a man- and that was my mistake!!!! I just saw a friend 🙄. He did try to visit my bedroom, uninvited!!!! and misused my hospitality. And didnt show me any respect as a friend- he just saw an opportunity for some “goodies”- he didnt get 😅 !! And he needed to find an other place to stay the rest of his holiday. That is not going to happen again!!! That’s life,- we learn as ling as we live 😊.
I have also got questions from friends that havent been here yet, but want to visit me, and the question is:” if they can come?”,- and I have told them “yes,- of course! But be aware and prepared for this,- I m working, I dont drink alcohol if Im going to work next day, its not a “party-party”, I cant go out for dinner every evening, I cant be your guide every day, Im not going to prepare breakfast or lunch- this you need to do on your own, Im only prepering dinner in the evenings. You need to find different “activities” to do during the days, you cant just wait for me to “entertainment” you when I m finish at work- but I will do my very best so you feel welcome, and also “entertain” you with my friendship and some small visits in our area ect.when Im not working. Im not on holiday- I have my daily life here.”
Normally I dont hear anything more from thise friends 😊. I dont tell them this things to be rude- this is just the way it is 😊. And people that havent visit us yet have a totally other imagination of “living in Spain”☀️. But I m still 46 years old, not a “norwegian rich bitch”, and not retired yet 😉. So I still need to work on daily basis like more or less everyone else in my age 😊. Many forget that 😅😊,- and needs a “rude” reminder of it,- if not they get a negative “suprice ” about “living in Spain ” and how it is to visit us, what it mean to visit us😊…..and to be honest,- the people that actually want to see me, visit me- also respect our life and life- situation during the summer ☀️💛. And they are coming to visit us anyway 💛.
I also know its friends in Norway, friends that has been good friends for many, many years when I was living in Norway I probably and unfortunately not going to see again- thats sad😔,- but thats the way it is. Something just happen with the contact and friendship when we moved- and lifes changes. Friendship changes.
Friends comes in different from and shapes as well as many other things in life 💛
Me- getting ready to preper our “Holiday Inn” for this Summer,- for all of our lovely friends ☀️
We are really looking forward to see our different friends again during this Summer 😍💛😍. You are all very welcome 💛☀️💛.