Is she struggling with me or is she just hugging me? πŸ˜…πŸ€—

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧑

In just a couple of days my daughter is going to move to her own apartment in Malaga 🏠. She is ready to live on her own now- I hope. Well,- at least I can say she is doing incredible well after her not to good experience in December 2020, and she have now got an apartment in the same building as one of her best friends. Her friend lives just one floor below her. Something I’m happy for, but I’m also happy they are not going to live together. I think it’s a bit important that my daughter find her own tempo and dynamics in her life, as well as maybe it’s my time to at least try to find my own tempo and dynamics in my life too πŸ˜….

I need to admit I’m very happy my daughter lives so close to her friend at the same time as they live separately. And yes,- I’m actually happy my daughter is ready to move back to Malaga and live on her own life as well.

Sounds maybe a bit awful for a mammi to say, special after what she was through, but it’s true. I’m looking forward to be just me….again ….hopefully for awhile now πŸ˜…. I have tried that a couple of times now,- thought I was start to live my own life, and just have the responsibility for just me and myself. It hasn’t quite been like that,- my children have obviously a tiny tenden to move back home to mammi…..for different reasons. And of course, – they are and will always be very welcome to stay with me for awhile when they need it ❀. But now I need a break from all this moving in and out for awhile 🏑.

I think my daughter is very ready to move out and live on her own too. So I actually asked her to write down what she is going to miss and what she’s not going to miss about living together with me, her mammi. And I have done the same. It’s not a bad list, it’s “just the way it is” list 😊. I think many parents with young adults children in their home have some similar thoughts, experiences and feelings around this “to live together with their young adults children” as I have.

I’m in one way so ready to just start to be me, but at the same time I have, like I mention in the post “The ticket to Madrid is now booked”, that it has not just been me that has kept my children in their hands, but they have in they very own way kept my hand so safety in their hands too.

This is changing now. And I know that this is the way it is, the way it needs to be for all four of us.

Me and my daughter,- I’m not sure if she’s struggling with me or if she’s hugging me πŸ˜…

My daughter’s list over “Will miss, will not miss” was supricely short. Mine was a bit longer πŸ˜…. Maybe that’s why she’s holding around me like she do? πŸ˜…

I’m actually looking forward to just take my own dish wash, and also know where to find all the glasses and plates. And I’m looking forward to just carry food on my back to myself and not two people. It’s a bit heavy to be honest. When this is said, – my daughter has taken the dish wash now and then, and also went to the food store together with me sometimes and helped me carry our food. But most of the time it has been just me.

I’m looking forward to not nag all the time about cleaning up, put the garbage in the garbage box, take the glasses and plates down from the bedroom, remove your socks, t- shirt, sweater from the sofa. Can you take the dish wash? Can you carry out the garbage? And so on… I don’t understand the mess, but I actually don’t think she see “the mess” in the same way I see her mess “here and there and everywhere”. I’m so looking forward to not live with to much mess around me πŸ˜…. It’s actually different “small things” in the daily life, but still it’s irritating things because we are in different levels in life, and see things in a bit different ways. And it’s probably irritated me much more then her this small daily things like the socks in the sofa or the glasses in her bedroom, and so on. And I’m looking forward to find my things and stuffs where I put them and not try to find them some other places πŸ˜….

And then it is “the time” , my time will be different, it will probably be a bit more of it. Because when you share your home with someone you also share your time. Something that is in general a good and positive thing, but it is also good and positive to use the time on things that’s just your own, and have your own time in your own way. Or in this “case”,- my own way ( and my daughter’s way too ) 😊. Im looking forward to use more of my time to paint, knit, write, keep my home “in order”, and also proberly some more and other things too.

I’m going to miss her, no doubt about that❀. Miss her energy around me. Miss our “food- haunting” together, and our chatting. I’m going to miss her smile, to talk with her, laugh together eith her and hug her. And Im to miss her safety hand. Im going to miss her help in different online things and App’s I don’t understand. Im going to miss to be sourrende by her, at the same time as it’s great to get this distance from each other too now 😊.

My daughter is looking forward to have her own place, space and apartment. And be alone when she want, use her time on her own and focus on her self. And she also are looking forward to learn to make her own food, and learn to live her life in her own way. And she’s looking forward to not hear me nagging about things and stuffs she doesn’t see, like the socks in the sofa πŸ˜….

I’m actually also looking forward to this things in my life. Also to for example make dinners with tomatoes and onions in πŸ˜…. As well as actually not make dinner for anyone else then myself.

Things my daughter is going to miss is me/ mammi, mammi’s food, dinner and lunches. And mammi’s love.

I’m very happy she feel loved by me, and that love will be there always, it will never change ❀.

But as you see,- my “not going to miss” list it’s a bit longer then my daughter’s list. Something I think it’s very normal and natural, because I’m a mammi. But,- now it’s time for the mammi role to change a bit, as well as the mammi/ daughter role too 😊. That’s the way it is when the children are growing up and out from the home 🏑.

I know my daughter loves me, and I know her time together with me has been very valued for both of us. And soon it’s time for some changes in life for both of us, and some new adventures and new experiences in life in different ways forms and ways 😊.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧑 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧑

See you soon 😊

I love my love my daughter unconditional- and she knows it very well ❀.

In just a couple of days my daughter is moving out…..again….but this time it’s probably for awhile 🏑. I did ask her what she was looking forward and what she will miss with moving out from her mammi. For some reason my “list” was a bit longer on the “not going to miss” part then her’s πŸ˜….

#unconditionallove #mammi #thelife #life #newexperiences #raisingup #growingup #gettingolder #movingout #mydaugther #youngadult #newadventures #mychildren #happiness #changes #challenges #positivefocus πŸ’š

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