Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡
My daughter has moved out from my/ our home, again, and this time we both are pretty sure it will like this for a time, that we will have our separate homes in the future, but still be in each other’s life 🏡.
It feels good to be “on my own” , at the same time as I need to admit it felt a bit empty without her 😊. But this is the way it is and will be, and it’s fine for both her and me 😊.
We had a tiny little blue toast before she moved out. A blue toast for new adventures in both our lifes, probably very different adventures, but still adventures for us both. Adventures we both are looking forward to experiencing even we have no idea what kind of adventures that are in front of us 😊. But I think it will be some good adventures 💛.
I can say we choose the blue toast because of the symbolic for the blue colour 🎨, but that’s not totally true . It became blue because I need some more glassbottles to paint on, and this one was the cheapest and had also the lowest alcohol level 😊.
Non of us had any need for a lots of “bubbles in our blood” 😊. She was going to move the day after and a bit early in the morning as well, and I was going to work. And this toast also was more a symbolic toast for us A toast for the time we had spent together as well as for the time we have in front of us 😊.
My daughter has this time arranged everything on her own. No help from mammi. She had found the apartment on her own, and arranged the moving with a separate moving car too. I don’t have a car at the moment, but she did find a solution on her own 😊. She has also packed and organized her things on her own, without interference from me. I’m just a mammi so it’s sometimes a bit to difficult to not interference, but I manage to “keep calm” 😅.
We was both a bit tired of living together now. I think probably because we knew it was closer and closer to “the moving day”, and also because we are different. We arrange our home and life differently, something that’s also very natural, even we are mammi and daughter. But we are anyway in different stages in life.
It’s small things that can irritate us. Like for example what is mess in my eyes it’s not mess in her eyes. But all in all I need to say,- this living together period has went incredibly well. No fighting or yelling, just a bit “grumping” now and then 😊. And some of this “grumpiness” it’s my “mistake”. It’s this “menopause” and things that can irritate me for actually no reason 😳. I haven’t been like that before 🙄. But to be honest,- I think I have manage to “deal” with my grumpiness in a okay way, and my daughter too 😅. ( It’s going to be good to be grumpy totally alone now, no need for “put my self together” when I’m grumpy 😅).
When my sons moved out their first time they got a basket each filled up with food and soft drinks for around 50 euro each. Food and soft drinks like juice, pasta, different sauces, snacks, ect.
When my daughter moved out her first time she didn’t get anything from me because we knew she was going to move back home for a while 6 months after. But when she moved out again the Autumn 2020 she (and her now ex-boyfriend) got 2 cava and the plan was also to give her (they) some plants I had been growing up for them. But because of the different restrictions I didn’t manage to give the plants to her before she suddenly was back home to my home again. But this time she got the plants with her in the moving car 😊.
To have some plants in the home create the home a bit more homely, and plants creates also a different and good atmosphere 🌳. At least I think so 😊. And plants in their own way represented “growing” 🌞.
I did gave my daughter something else too, as “a moving out gift”, a bit like a kind of a basket filled up with food, but instead of a basket filled up with food she actually got a “food box” where I have put away 5 euro for every week we has been living together this time ( it became 13 weeks) , and I also put a notebook and a pen into the box📝.
As a single mammi I have in general needed to think economic, and one of my economic priorities has been how I shop food. In general I shop food once a week, and I actually have a “food box” in my kitchen with the weekly amount I/ we in general need for food. And then I write down on a shopping list what’s necessary to buy for the next week of food and drinks.
In general this has function very well, except from the last 18 months when I have had a lots of “moving in and out” traffic in my home 😊. It’s not easy to “balance” the food, drinks and money to use when there are different types of people living in my home 😊. But this is actually a good way, at least for me, to have a bit control over the economy.
And I have tried to learn my children this tiny little “trick” of saving money too 😊.
I’m not rich on money, but I’m creative 😊. And my daughter was very happy and grateful for this “Congratulations with your new home” gift from me 😊.
Ps 1- my first days “on my own” has not yet been on my own 😊. My oldest son, his friend and my son’s dog dropped by, and then a friend of me dropped by after they had left 😊. And Ps 2- I’m really looking forward to get a bit control over my own “food box” in my kitchen again, as well as be able to save a bit on both the electricity and water too now- it is what it is to live together with someone else, but I’m looking forward to get a bit more control over my own economy again 😊.
I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡
See you soon 😊
Me and my daughter had a symbolic toast together the evening before she moved out 🥂. A blue toast for new adventures 😊. And she also got some tiny “Congratulations with your new home” gifts from me, maybe symbolic in their own way? 😊📝🌳 Plants for “growing” and a “food box” for economy ? 😊.
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