Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡
I have been thinking a bit about dating and relationship,- and why it’s seems like it’s “working” for some and others are not so lucky in the dating and relationship area.
I’m not dating anyone at moment, and I’m actually not sure I want “to put my self” in a dating and relationship “position” again either. You can say I haven’t been in the category “to lucky” when it comes to dating and relationship 😊. So maybe it’s better to just not date then?
I have been thinking about friendship too,- and why friendship in general seems to last a bit longer than a relationship. In most “cases” of course. Friendship can ends too.
What is the case that causes a relationship to be stable and functioning? And what is that one that a friendship works and is mostly stable? I don’t know,- I have just my own thoughts and experiences around this,- and it’s not sure they are correct.
In Norway we have different expressions, – “like children play best” and “opposites attract each other “. Maybe you have heard the expressions before?
In my mind both are correct. In my mind both expressions have some “truth”. But maybe one expression “suits” better for relationships and the other for friendship?
“Opposites attract each other ” is in a way a bit similar with the “yin and yang” ,- a conversational concept within and in from Chinese philosophy.
Yin is based on the earthly principle, and yang is the heavenly principle.
It is about two opposite symbols, and different forces that complement each other. Such as cold-hot, dark-light, passive-active. The forces must complement each other, get a balance, create an interaction.
And as we know from the world of physics, opposites attract each other. The positive and negative magnet are attracted to each other. And we must also have a positive and negative pole in a battery for the battery to work, for the electrons to go from pole to pole and create, for example, light in a flashlight 💡.
So in my mind and from this perspective it’s logic that “opposites attract each other “,- and can create a good, lovely, stable and long term relationship 💞.
But then we have the expression “like children play best“,- as mean people with the same interest, hobbies, attitudes, thoughts, lifestyles, ethics and so on also work very well together.
When it comes to my own experiences, relationship and the expression “opposites attract each other ” I need to admit I have been attracted to the “oposite” from my self. If you understand what I mean?
But how good it has been working is an other thing 😅.
When it comes to friendship my best friends and friendship are the ones from the expression “like children play best” 😊. Friends I have something in common with in one or another way. It can be different life- experiences or life – situation, it can be work or hobbies or similar opinions or thoughts about different things. But in general there’s more then one “similar” thing that “connect” us and our friendship together,- and there are different connections that keeping the friendship together, stable, good and positive 🧡.
Then we have the research. It has actually been, in fact, both expressions of friendship and relationships have been researched.
And research shows that we are attracted to, or want, the “opposite” of ourselves in the search for a partner. But, – that the relationships that last the longest and are happiest are the ones that are “most similar”, – if you understand what I mean?
But when I take a look at my friends and their relationships, both friendship and partner relationships, – I see that both work very well. Both “like children play best” and “opposites attract each other “. So maybe something “works” better for some, and something else better for others? That it is not really “a fixed template” when it comes to “what’s the best functional” for an relationship and what’s best for a friendship? It’s a bit individual?
Like I mention,- for me my best friend and friendship are based on “like children play best“. We have something in common, and something that connects our friendship together. And like I also mention,- when it comes to dating or men I have in general been attracted to “opposites attract each other “. I can’t say if that’s way and the reason my dating and relationship hasn’t been working very well. It’s a bit more reasons connected to why it didn’t worked out and also why I chose to not date, at the moment or maybe “forever”.
But it’s not sure other have the same experiences as me in this case and area.
If I, one day, choose to “go back there” into the dating area I think it would and could be a good thing for me to have this in mind,- that maybe a good combination of both “like children play best” and “opposites attract each other ” will be the best solutions for me and a relationship? But will it be possible to meet someone where you feel both the expression are complete in one? 🤔
I don’t know, but I actually think it’s possible. It just depends what kind of like children play best” I need in the relation and what kinds of “opposites attract each other ” I need too 😊. At the moment I don’t know, time will show 😊.
I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡.
See you soon 😊
“Like children play best” and “opposites attract each other “,- two different expressions that are opposite from each other, but at the same time both can describe a good relationship and a good friendship 🏵. I don’t think there’s any “fixed template” for a good relationship or friendship 💞. I think it is a bit more individual than that 😊.
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