It feels like the time just flies away 💙🎈🎁

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

Today it’s 27 year since I became a mammi for the first time in my life,- to a lovely baby boy. The most fantastic, sweetest and gorgeous baby boy I have ever seen 💙. It was a marvellous moment, and in it’s own way still is 💙.

I still remember that day, 27 years ago, and it’s a day I’m probably going to remember with joy and happiness for the rest of my life 💙. I was so proud, and still is 🥰.

A so proud mammi to my first born child 27 years  ago- a friend of my in Norway did take this photo when she visited us in the hospital 💙

The feeling to hold him in my arms for the first time was fantastic 🥰. I felt so deeply in love with this little baby boy it felt like my heart was going to explode 💖. And this love has not became any less during the years, not at all ❤. Just bigger and stronger for very day 💙.

The love I feel for him is so strong, so unconditional- it’s impossible for me to explain with any words. There’s no words big enough to manage explain my love for him, and how incredibly proud I’m to be his mammi 💙. And how incredibly proud I’m of my son, my oldest son, my first born child 💙.

He is not a baby or child anymore, he is a young adult man. I do forget that sometimes, actually a bit often now and then too. He will probably always be my child, no matter how old he is 💙.

He goes his own ways in life, and that’s so fine 🥰. I see he is happy in his life, he works hard, and he reach the different goals he want to reach. He loves to entertain, something he always has liked to do.

He is helpful, and help out as best as he can if anyone close to him need some help of any kind 😊. And he really love to live close to the nature, and enjoys his life in the mountains 😊.

It’s getting a bit more difficult to find good and useful birthday presents to him as older he get 🎁. He manage to buy what he need on his own now 😊. But I really want to give him something that in it’s own way represent the love I feel for him. The proud. The best wishes for him in his life.

If I could, I have probably given him what ever he wanted and wish for, but I can’t. I can give him my unconditional love, and something that shows my love for him 💙. So this year it became a painted winebottle, but not a empty winebottle. A winebottle with wine inside. A winebottle, one of a kind, just like my oldest son 💙.

It’s the first time I have painted on a winebottle with wine inside. It was a bit different to paint, because the bottle was heavier and the different reflections became different then I’m use to. And I was so worried to loose the bottle when I painted. I really didn’t want it to break.

I have actually looked around in different stores to find a winebottle colour with blue glass, and lucky for me I did manage to fine one after a while 💙.

In case I could not remove the label on the bottle I took a picture of it to be able to show my son what wine is inside the bottle.

I did manage to remove the label, and put it together with his birthday card 😊.

The birthday- card to my oldest son- with the label from the wine too 😊

I have been working with this winebottle for a while, but still I was a bit worried I shouldn’t manage to get finish to my son’s birthday. But I did 😊.

Some few details from the winebottle to my oldest son 💙
The winebottle in different “environment” 😊.

And of course I wanted to try to made the present so “special” as I can and have the possibility to do,- so I found a bit cool winebox to the painted winebottle too 🎁.

Look ,- a bit cool ,- isn’t it? 💙

And of course I made the favourite chocolate cake I always makes to my children’s birthdays 😊🎁

The chocolate cake/ birthday cake and the birthday gift to my oldest son at his 27 years birthday 🎁💙.
And here you can see the winebottle “all around ” 💙

I should actually painted the winebottle in different violet colours, because that’s my oldest son favourite colour 🎨. But since the kids was small I have “created” things and stuffs, like for example clothes in different blue colours to my oldest, in different green colours to my middle son, and my daughter, – she was a bit “luckier” with the colours because I switched a bit between red, pink and violet in different varieties 😊. So then it became blue winebottle to my oldest son 💙.

And my oldest son has got some different knitted things in different violet colours so I think he know I know what’s his favourite colour anyway, and they all three know I have this “habit” to still give them things “touched” with the colours from their childhood 🥰.

So it’s actually and really 27 years since I became a mammi for the first time today 🥰. It feels incredible, – the time just flies away. I feel so incredibly grateful and lucky, and so proud 💙.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

It was not easy to put lights inside a not open bottle, so then it became a bit lights around the the bottle instead 💙

Imagen it’s 27 years since I had this tiny little baby boy in my arms and felt so deeply in love 💙. He will probably always in a way be my child no matter how old he is 💙. In my post you will find my birthday gift to him this year, and if you want to take a look, you are welcome to do 🥰.

#mammi #raisingup #growingup #gettingolder #Norwegian #livinginspain #lifeis #myoldestson #lifeexperiences #lifeisgood #thelife #feelinggrateful #feelinglucky #proud #birthday #gift #winebottle #create #creative #myart #art #oneofakind #oilcolor #oilpainting #unconditionallove ❤

This time of the year 🌞🏖 🎒

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

At this time of the year I had already had holiday guests and friends at visit from Norway as well as I actually know who is coming for visit and when closely during the rest of the year. But not this year, and not last year either.

Last year my home was filled up with “guests”,- my children and some of their friends, but non of my friends from Norway was here. And that’s because of the corona- situation.

I don’t know if there will be any visitors,- like friends and family from Norway this year either. Because of the corona- situation.

In general in April I have already had some visits from friends and family in Norway, and I more and less did knew who was coming in May, June, July, August, September and October.

My friends and family in Norway has been very good to planned their holidays here in my home, and they ask in good time before they even order their trip to Spain and when it’s best for me to have guests.

I’m working, and I have no possibility for take some days off from my job every month from April to October. And I haven’t enough room and space to have them “all at once” either 😊.

Therefore, visitors must be distributed a little throughout the year so that I get good quality time with each one, although I also have to take into account my job.

In general I have at least one visit from Norway every month from April to October. It’s really nice, cozy and so good to see them. But of course also a bit busy to be a hostess in between my job 😊.

Last year was okay, I was actually fine with the fact that no one from Norway could come and visit me here in Spain. My home was already “full booked” 😊.

But I need to admit I don’t like the thought of not having any visitors from Norway this year. No friends, no family. It feels actually a bit sad 😞.

I do understand the corona- situation and why people can’t travel so much “here and there and everywhere” now at days, but still I need to admit it’s feels sad.

I miss my friends and family up there in Norway,- and I like to have vist from them from April to October, even it can be a bit busy with so many guests during 7 months in the year. But still it’s worth the business 😊.

I have had it like this actually since we moved to Spain. Every year the holiday guests starts coming in April, and the last one arrives (and travel back to Norway) in October 😊. It has become a kind of nice and cozy “routines” during the Spring, Summer and Autumn, and inbetween my work 😊.

I know a femal friend of me in Norway is full vaccinated now, or finished vaccine for COVID19. She actually comes a week to ten days three times a year. I have a little hope that she might come to visit one or twice this year. But I do not know.

And of course I hope and wish there will come some more visit from Norway to me during this year, but I need to admit I have my doubts if anyone actually are coming.

What do I do with this summer then?😳 I’m actually use to “fill up” my days and home with some friends and family from Norway now and then during this time of the year,- from April to October 😊.

But,- I will probably manage to create some lovely days together with my friends and children here in Spain too 🌞. So I will not be totally alone all the time 😊.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

Hopefully there will be some few guests from Norway this year,- but I don’t know yet 😊.

At this time of the year normally I already had some visits from my family and friends in Norway, as well as I in general know how is coming the next weeks and months 😊. But not this year. Maybe there will come some holiday guests, maybe not. Time will show 😊.

#holiday #gueste #Norway #friends #family #visit #coronasituation

It takes a bit time to find the balance again 😊🥀

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

I have been living with some “moving in and out” from my home since the beginning of October 2019. And during this time I have found out it takes a bit time to find my balance in the new “living together” and “living alone” situations that has changed more and less every second or third month 😊.

Things goes okay, of course, but I need to try to find a kind of rhythm, routines and balance together with the people I’m living together with as well as my own rhythm, routines and balance when they has moved out again 😊.

The first month it’s a bit like trying out what’s most functional for the people who are living in my home as well as me. And then slowly during the second month it’s seems and feels like we get a kind of balance together, and things in the daily life goes a bit “smoother” and we in a way manage to create a kind of routine together as well as separate.

And then we turn into the third month and a new “round” of trying to find the balance starting again because someone has moved out, and someone is maybe soon moving in again 😊.

It’s almost a bit like I have to reset myself a little bit every time – whether it’s moving in or moving out.  If you understand what I mean?

In a living together situation it’s a bit important to find a balance more and less where everyone is a bit comfortable with. But it is not easy, because we are all different, we have different habits (good and not to good), and we see things in the daily life differently too.

I need to admit I think this “moving in and out” from my home have got smoother then I first had in mind. Maybe because in general it has been my children and their friends that have moved their suitcases in and out, so it’s people I actually know very well 😊.

Now I’m on my own again and have actually been living alone for around a month. I haven’t got or “found” the balance that’s feels best for me yet, but I’m getting closer 😊.

I need to admit I have felt a bit restless and inactive lately, and it has been a little difficult to create new good routines in my life. I’m not sure why I feel and have felt a bit restless, but probably because the life- and living situation has changed again, and I’m going “in and out” from my routines and balance in my life.

And of course this “getting older” process also is influential cause. But I have not quite managed to find my own peace in my everyday life yet.  And I like to have calm, balance, rhythm and routines in my daily life. And I’m not quite there yet…. Maybe I’m a bit a little impatient with myself? I know things takes a bit time sometimes 😊.

I have learned during this around 18 months with a changing life- situation every second and third month that it takes me around 8 to 10 weeks before I’m “there” I want to be and with the balance in my life I feel comfortable with. It doesn’t matter if it’s a living together situation or living on my own,- I’m actually comfortable and have learned to live with the new life situation after around 8- 10 weeks. So you can say I have been a bit “in and out” myself during this 18 months with a changing life- situation, and trying to find my new balance every second or third month 😅. But okay,- that’s life- and I think this time my living alone situation will last a bit longer then 2 or 3 months so I have the chance to find a very good balance in my life too 😊.

I’m not sure if anyone else has it this way? I don’t think the young adult that has been living in my home has felt this “balance” thing in the daily life at the same way as me. And I also think, well at least it looked like that for me, that this young adults found their balance in the daily life very fast, also when they moved into my home 😊. Of course I’m very happy for that, because then at least they felt like “home” and hopefully a bit relaxed with the living together situation 😊.

But I think as older we get a bit more difficult it is for us to “adopt” us into a new life situation, it’s more difficult because we are older, and it takes a bit longer time to feel comfortable and “balanced” in the new life situation. It’s not sure I’m correct. This is just my thoughts and feelings, and also my experiences during the last 18 months.

I’m doing my things, – my job, my freelance work, I knit and I paint too, and I meet my friends now and then as well. So I’m trying my very best to create a balance, my balance in my life. But I still have this restlessness inside me, and Im actually still very inactive in my life even it maybe doesn’t look like that from “the outside”,- and there’s still a couple of more routines I need to try to get a bit better “control” over in my daily life 😊. I’m actually in general a bit more effective then I have been the last month. Hopefully I will be “there” I want to be with my rhythms and routines in my daily life in the middle of May 😅.

Is it just me that is like this? Have this habit and need for having a kind of balance in my daily life, and a kind of rhythm and routines too? And is it just me that actually use over 2 months to “get” the balance in my life I feel comfortable with after some changes in the daily life balance? I hope not 😊. (Anyway I’m who I’m- like to have a kind of balance “here and there ” in my life 😊).

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡. Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

I feel I need to resett my self a bit after some months with “moving in and out” from my home 😊.

Is it just me that like to have a kind of balance in the daily life? I feel I need to resett my self a bit every time someone is moving in or out from my home, because I like to have a kind of balance in my daily life,- both when I’m sharing my home as well as living on my own 😊.

#resett #balanceinlife #gettingolder #Norwegian #livinginspain #lifeis #myblog #mylife #mypost #thedailylife #lifeexperiences #changes #challenges #movingout #dailylife #routines #positivefocus

Yin and yang, or similarities? 🏵💮

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

I have been thinking a bit about dating and relationship,- and why it’s seems like it’s “working” for some and others are not so lucky in the dating and relationship area.

I’m not dating anyone at moment, and I’m actually not sure I want “to put my self” in a dating and relationship “position” again either. You can say I haven’t been in the category “to lucky” when it comes to dating and relationship 😊. So maybe it’s better to just not date then?

I have been thinking about friendship too,- and why friendship in general seems to last a bit longer than a relationship. In most “cases” of course. Friendship can ends too.

What is the case that causes a relationship to be stable and functioning? And what is that one that a friendship works and is mostly stable? I don’t know,- I have just my own thoughts and experiences around this,- and it’s not sure they are correct.

In Norway we have different expressions, – “like children play best” and “opposites attract each other “. Maybe you have heard the expressions before?

In my mind both are correct. In my mind both expressions have some “truth”. But maybe one expression “suits” better for relationships and the other for friendship?

“Opposites attract each other ” is in a way a bit similar with the “yin and yang” ,- a conversational concept within and in from Chinese philosophy.

Yin is based on the earthly principle, and yang is the heavenly principle.

It is about two opposite symbols, and different forces that complement each other.  Such as cold-hot, dark-light, passive-active. The forces must complement each other, get a balance, create an interaction.

And as we know from the world of physics, opposites attract each other.  The positive and negative magnet are attracted to each other.  And we must also have a positive and negative pole in a battery for the battery to work, for the electrons to go from pole to pole and create, for example, light in a flashlight 💡.

So in my mind and from this perspective it’s logic that “opposites attract each other “,- and can create a good, lovely, stable and long term relationship 💞.

But then we have the expression “like children play best“,- as mean people with the same interest, hobbies, attitudes, thoughts, lifestyles, ethics and so on also work very well together.

When it comes to my own experiences, relationship and the expression “opposites attract each other ” I need to admit I have been attracted to the “oposite” from my self. If you understand what I mean?

But how good it has been working is an other thing 😅.

When it comes to friendship my best friends and friendship are the ones from the expression “like children play best” 😊. Friends I have something in common with in one or another way. It can be different life- experiences or life – situation, it can be work or hobbies or similar opinions or thoughts about different things. But in general there’s more then one “similar” thing that “connect” us and our friendship together,- and there are different connections that keeping the friendship together, stable, good and positive 🧡.

Then we have the research. It has actually been, in fact, both expressions of friendship and relationships have been researched.

And research shows that we are attracted to, or want, the “opposite” of ourselves in the search for a partner.  But, – that the relationships that last the longest and are happiest are the ones that are “most similar”, – if you understand what I mean?

But when I take a look at my friends and their relationships, both friendship and partner relationships, – I see that both work very well. Both “like children play best” and “opposites attract each other “. So maybe something “works” better for some, and something else better for others? That it is not really “a fixed template” when it comes to “what’s the best functional” for an relationship and what’s best for a friendship? It’s a bit individual?

Like I mention,- for me my best friend and friendship are based on “like children play best“. We have something in common, and something that connects our friendship together. And like I also mention,- when it comes to dating or men I have in general been attracted to “opposites attract each other “. I can’t say if that’s way and the reason my dating and relationship hasn’t been working very well. It’s a bit more reasons connected to why it didn’t worked out and also why I chose to not date, at the moment or maybe “forever”.

But it’s not sure other have the same experiences as me in this case and area.

If I, one day, choose to “go back there” into the dating area I think it would and could be a good thing for me to have this in mind,- that maybe a good combination of both “like children play best” and “opposites attract each other ” will be the best solutions for me and a relationship? But will it be possible to meet someone where you feel both the expression are complete in one? 🤔

I don’t know, but I actually think it’s possible. It just depends what kind of like children play best” I need in the relation and what kinds of “opposites attract each other ” I need too 😊. At the moment I don’t know, time will show 😊.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡.

See you soon 😊

I didn’t had any “yin- ysng” symptoms- but I had a sweet panda- hecis from China too,- and with the colours he in his own way can represent and be a symbol for my text to day 😊

“Like children play best” and “opposites attract each other “,- two different expressions that are opposite from each other, but at the same time both can describe a good relationship and a good friendship 🏵. I don’t think there’s any “fixed template” for a good relationship or friendship 💞. I think it is a bit more individual than that 😊.

#yinyang #friendship #relationship #similarities #mythoughts #lifeis #myblog #mylife #positivefocus 😊

JustLailaS is now JustLailaS 😊🥀

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

Like I mention in a post for around a month ago I’m changing my domain name to my blog 😊. It’s no more mybumpyshininglife.com only Justlailas.com from now 😊.

And it feels very correct for me to do this change now at days, and I’m also comfortable with using my own name at my blog domain now 😊.

It has been a kind of process for me from mybumpyshininglife to JustLailaS. My focus on my domain name at that time was that my life felt a bit bumpy but also very shiny 🌞. But at that time, when I chose the name for my blog and domain name, my focus was also very much about “the bump” that dropped me off in Spain with a couple of kids in my suitcase. I’m not there anymore, – and that feels incredibly great 🥰.

I in a way did write me “out of it”, and that’s a very good feeling 😊.

It feels also as a good time to change name on my blog and domain name now when I’m standing on one “stop line” in my life as well as a new “start line” in my life too 😊. And from now it is “just me” too, but of course my blog will still contain my children too, as well as other friends and family that are important for me in my life 🧡.

It will still contain my art and what’s happen in my life- small and big things, stuffs and happenings. And it will still contain some of my thoughts about and around different subjects in life as well as dreams too 😊. And I’m still going to try to take and use my own photos as well to my texts.

It’s actually not many different changes in my blog, it’s more the symbolic name change that is the biggest changes in my blog. And the name change is more symbolic for me then my readers 😊.

And in a couple of weeks I’m also going to get an email connected to my blog,- something I’m actually looking forward to 😊. It’s not sure I will get any emails, but it feels nice to just have the possibility for my readers to contact me on an email if they want to 😊.

And hopefully there will be some new brands or banners in my blog too. One thing at the time,- and the first step was to change my domain name and name at my blog 😊.

I’m looking forward to continue writing in my blog, and I hope you also are looking forward to read my blog and posts now and then 😊.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

Laila S. from April 2021 😊

I have changed my domain name at my blog,- and it feels as the correct time in my life to do this change 😊. It’s also a tiny bit symbolic change of the name since I’m on my way out from inexera in my life and on my way into a new era in my life 🥰.

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