It takes a bit time to find the balance again 😊🥀

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

I have been living with some “moving in and out” from my home since the beginning of October 2019. And during this time I have found out it takes a bit time to find my balance in the new “living together” and “living alone” situations that has changed more and less every second or third month 😊.

Things goes okay, of course, but I need to try to find a kind of rhythm, routines and balance together with the people I’m living together with as well as my own rhythm, routines and balance when they has moved out again 😊.

The first month it’s a bit like trying out what’s most functional for the people who are living in my home as well as me. And then slowly during the second month it’s seems and feels like we get a kind of balance together, and things in the daily life goes a bit “smoother” and we in a way manage to create a kind of routine together as well as separate.

And then we turn into the third month and a new “round” of trying to find the balance starting again because someone has moved out, and someone is maybe soon moving in again 😊.

It’s almost a bit like I have to reset myself a little bit every time – whether it’s moving in or moving out.  If you understand what I mean?

In a living together situation it’s a bit important to find a balance more and less where everyone is a bit comfortable with. But it is not easy, because we are all different, we have different habits (good and not to good), and we see things in the daily life differently too.

I need to admit I think this “moving in and out” from my home have got smoother then I first had in mind. Maybe because in general it has been my children and their friends that have moved their suitcases in and out, so it’s people I actually know very well 😊.

Now I’m on my own again and have actually been living alone for around a month. I haven’t got or “found” the balance that’s feels best for me yet, but I’m getting closer 😊.

I need to admit I have felt a bit restless and inactive lately, and it has been a little difficult to create new good routines in my life. I’m not sure why I feel and have felt a bit restless, but probably because the life- and living situation has changed again, and I’m going “in and out” from my routines and balance in my life.

And of course this “getting older” process also is influential cause. But I have not quite managed to find my own peace in my everyday life yet.  And I like to have calm, balance, rhythm and routines in my daily life. And I’m not quite there yet…. Maybe I’m a bit a little impatient with myself? I know things takes a bit time sometimes 😊.

I have learned during this around 18 months with a changing life- situation every second and third month that it takes me around 8 to 10 weeks before I’m “there” I want to be and with the balance in my life I feel comfortable with. It doesn’t matter if it’s a living together situation or living on my own,- I’m actually comfortable and have learned to live with the new life situation after around 8- 10 weeks. So you can say I have been a bit “in and out” myself during this 18 months with a changing life- situation, and trying to find my new balance every second or third month 😅. But okay,- that’s life- and I think this time my living alone situation will last a bit longer then 2 or 3 months so I have the chance to find a very good balance in my life too 😊.

I’m not sure if anyone else has it this way? I don’t think the young adult that has been living in my home has felt this “balance” thing in the daily life at the same way as me. And I also think, well at least it looked like that for me, that this young adults found their balance in the daily life very fast, also when they moved into my home 😊. Of course I’m very happy for that, because then at least they felt like “home” and hopefully a bit relaxed with the living together situation 😊.

But I think as older we get a bit more difficult it is for us to “adopt” us into a new life situation, it’s more difficult because we are older, and it takes a bit longer time to feel comfortable and “balanced” in the new life situation. It’s not sure I’m correct. This is just my thoughts and feelings, and also my experiences during the last 18 months.

I’m doing my things, – my job, my freelance work, I knit and I paint too, and I meet my friends now and then as well. So I’m trying my very best to create a balance, my balance in my life. But I still have this restlessness inside me, and Im actually still very inactive in my life even it maybe doesn’t look like that from “the outside”,- and there’s still a couple of more routines I need to try to get a bit better “control” over in my daily life 😊. I’m actually in general a bit more effective then I have been the last month. Hopefully I will be “there” I want to be with my rhythms and routines in my daily life in the middle of May 😅.

Is it just me that is like this? Have this habit and need for having a kind of balance in my daily life, and a kind of rhythm and routines too? And is it just me that actually use over 2 months to “get” the balance in my life I feel comfortable with after some changes in the daily life balance? I hope not 😊. (Anyway I’m who I’m- like to have a kind of balance “here and there ” in my life 😊).

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡. Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

I feel I need to resett my self a bit after some months with “moving in and out” from my home 😊.

Is it just me that like to have a kind of balance in the daily life? I feel I need to resett my self a bit every time someone is moving in or out from my home, because I like to have a kind of balance in my daily life,- both when I’m sharing my home as well as living on my own 😊.

#resett #balanceinlife #gettingolder #Norwegian #livinginspain #lifeis #myblog #mylife #mypost #thedailylife #lifeexperiences #changes #challenges #movingout #dailylife #routines #positivefocus

Yin and yang, or similarities? 🏵💮

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

I have been thinking a bit about dating and relationship,- and why it’s seems like it’s “working” for some and others are not so lucky in the dating and relationship area.

I’m not dating anyone at moment, and I’m actually not sure I want “to put my self” in a dating and relationship “position” again either. You can say I haven’t been in the category “to lucky” when it comes to dating and relationship 😊. So maybe it’s better to just not date then?

I have been thinking about friendship too,- and why friendship in general seems to last a bit longer than a relationship. In most “cases” of course. Friendship can ends too.

What is the case that causes a relationship to be stable and functioning? And what is that one that a friendship works and is mostly stable? I don’t know,- I have just my own thoughts and experiences around this,- and it’s not sure they are correct.

In Norway we have different expressions, – “like children play best” and “opposites attract each other “. Maybe you have heard the expressions before?

In my mind both are correct. In my mind both expressions have some “truth”. But maybe one expression “suits” better for relationships and the other for friendship?

“Opposites attract each other ” is in a way a bit similar with the “yin and yang” ,- a conversational concept within and in from Chinese philosophy.

Yin is based on the earthly principle, and yang is the heavenly principle.

It is about two opposite symbols, and different forces that complement each other.  Such as cold-hot, dark-light, passive-active. The forces must complement each other, get a balance, create an interaction.

And as we know from the world of physics, opposites attract each other.  The positive and negative magnet are attracted to each other.  And we must also have a positive and negative pole in a battery for the battery to work, for the electrons to go from pole to pole and create, for example, light in a flashlight 💡.

So in my mind and from this perspective it’s logic that “opposites attract each other “,- and can create a good, lovely, stable and long term relationship 💞.

But then we have the expression “like children play best“,- as mean people with the same interest, hobbies, attitudes, thoughts, lifestyles, ethics and so on also work very well together.

When it comes to my own experiences, relationship and the expression “opposites attract each other ” I need to admit I have been attracted to the “oposite” from my self. If you understand what I mean?

But how good it has been working is an other thing 😅.

When it comes to friendship my best friends and friendship are the ones from the expression “like children play best” 😊. Friends I have something in common with in one or another way. It can be different life- experiences or life – situation, it can be work or hobbies or similar opinions or thoughts about different things. But in general there’s more then one “similar” thing that “connect” us and our friendship together,- and there are different connections that keeping the friendship together, stable, good and positive 🧡.

Then we have the research. It has actually been, in fact, both expressions of friendship and relationships have been researched.

And research shows that we are attracted to, or want, the “opposite” of ourselves in the search for a partner.  But, – that the relationships that last the longest and are happiest are the ones that are “most similar”, – if you understand what I mean?

But when I take a look at my friends and their relationships, both friendship and partner relationships, – I see that both work very well. Both “like children play best” and “opposites attract each other “. So maybe something “works” better for some, and something else better for others? That it is not really “a fixed template” when it comes to “what’s the best functional” for an relationship and what’s best for a friendship? It’s a bit individual?

Like I mention,- for me my best friend and friendship are based on “like children play best“. We have something in common, and something that connects our friendship together. And like I also mention,- when it comes to dating or men I have in general been attracted to “opposites attract each other “. I can’t say if that’s way and the reason my dating and relationship hasn’t been working very well. It’s a bit more reasons connected to why it didn’t worked out and also why I chose to not date, at the moment or maybe “forever”.

But it’s not sure other have the same experiences as me in this case and area.

If I, one day, choose to “go back there” into the dating area I think it would and could be a good thing for me to have this in mind,- that maybe a good combination of both “like children play best” and “opposites attract each other ” will be the best solutions for me and a relationship? But will it be possible to meet someone where you feel both the expression are complete in one? 🤔

I don’t know, but I actually think it’s possible. It just depends what kind of like children play best” I need in the relation and what kinds of “opposites attract each other ” I need too 😊. At the moment I don’t know, time will show 😊.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡.

See you soon 😊

I didn’t had any “yin- ysng” symptoms- but I had a sweet panda- hecis from China too,- and with the colours he in his own way can represent and be a symbol for my text to day 😊

“Like children play best” and “opposites attract each other “,- two different expressions that are opposite from each other, but at the same time both can describe a good relationship and a good friendship 🏵. I don’t think there’s any “fixed template” for a good relationship or friendship 💞. I think it is a bit more individual than that 😊.

#yinyang #friendship #relationship #similarities #mythoughts #lifeis #myblog #mylife #positivefocus 😊

JustLailaS is now JustLailaS 😊🥀

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

Like I mention in a post for around a month ago I’m changing my domain name to my blog 😊. It’s no more mybumpyshininglife.com only Justlailas.com from now 😊.

And it feels very correct for me to do this change now at days, and I’m also comfortable with using my own name at my blog domain now 😊.

It has been a kind of process for me from mybumpyshininglife to JustLailaS. My focus on my domain name at that time was that my life felt a bit bumpy but also very shiny 🌞. But at that time, when I chose the name for my blog and domain name, my focus was also very much about “the bump” that dropped me off in Spain with a couple of kids in my suitcase. I’m not there anymore, – and that feels incredibly great 🥰.

I in a way did write me “out of it”, and that’s a very good feeling 😊.

It feels also as a good time to change name on my blog and domain name now when I’m standing on one “stop line” in my life as well as a new “start line” in my life too 😊. And from now it is “just me” too, but of course my blog will still contain my children too, as well as other friends and family that are important for me in my life 🧡.

It will still contain my art and what’s happen in my life- small and big things, stuffs and happenings. And it will still contain some of my thoughts about and around different subjects in life as well as dreams too 😊. And I’m still going to try to take and use my own photos as well to my texts.

It’s actually not many different changes in my blog, it’s more the symbolic name change that is the biggest changes in my blog. And the name change is more symbolic for me then my readers 😊.

And in a couple of weeks I’m also going to get an email connected to my blog,- something I’m actually looking forward to 😊. It’s not sure I will get any emails, but it feels nice to just have the possibility for my readers to contact me on an email if they want to 😊.

And hopefully there will be some new brands or banners in my blog too. One thing at the time,- and the first step was to change my domain name and name at my blog 😊.

I’m looking forward to continue writing in my blog, and I hope you also are looking forward to read my blog and posts now and then 😊.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

Laila S. from April 2021 😊

I have changed my domain name at my blog,- and it feels as the correct time in my life to do this change 😊. It’s also a tiny bit symbolic change of the name since I’m on my way out from inexera in my life and on my way into a new era in my life 🥰.

#justlailas #lifeis #myblog #mylife #mypost #newname #newdomain #writing #sharing #texts #readers #followers #positivefocus #lifeisgood #thelife #life 💚

A new flowering in life 🌹🥀

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

This will probably be my last post for a tiny while that’s contains the subject “menopause” in one or another way 😊. At the same time as there of course will drop up post related to “getting older”,- because that’s actually a part of my life- to get and hopefully be older 😊.

I don’t have to much more to write about at the moment when it comes to the different physical changes and challenges during the menopause.

One thing is that I’m just on the start line into menopause myself, another thing the menopause doesn’t affect me more then I have already been written and told you about. It’s a tiny bit challenging when I feel I’m going to “fall apart” at my walks and actually need to sit down before I can continue my walk. At the same time it’s not happen all the time, it has just happen a few times 😊. And of course it’s a bit uncomfortable to wake up after a “water fall” during the nights. But except from that I can’t complain, or have to much more “exacting” to write about or around when it comes to the physical changes around menopause 😊.

It’s not sure the menopause will be a big challenge with to many changes for me either. I don’t know that yet. But if I remember correctly my puberty was not to bad for me, it felt very “normal”. But I think my parents thought it was a bit difficult now and then 😅. I’m their first child too, and their first teenagers,- so they probably didn’t know what to expect either 😊.

My pregnancies hasn’t been to hard either. So the hormones changing I have been through in my life so fare haven’t been the most difficult and challenging time in my life. But of course there was some challenges as well as changes. But not any big ones. Nothing to “brag” about 😊.

The menopause is also different from woman to woman. Like a pregnancy or giving birth can be.

Some of my friends that’s also going through this “period” ( menopause) in life have some thoughts around “life and dead”, as well as “this is the road to the end,- station” in life. Thoughts about a scary old age, the end in life and about dying 😐.

I haven’t actually thought very much about things like that. Maybe I will get thoughts about “life and dead” and “the end station” in life? I don’t know. At the moment I’m just choose to believe and think that I’m actually starting on a new flowering in my life 🌹🥀. That sounds so much nicer and happier, so much greater and so much more fun to look forward to 😊.

I have also been thinking about how much different experiences, knowledge and adventures in life I have manage to get and different experiences during my 48 year in my life. So why shouldn’t I have the possibility to “squeeze” in a bit more too during the next 20- 30, maybe even 40 years? Okay, – maybe in a bit slower motion and tempo then before, because I’m actually getting older and a bit slower 😅.

But I don’t understand why it should be impossible? 🤔 (in my mind it’s not 😊)

I actually don’t want to stop living now,- I want to do some more out of my life, get some more knowledge in different areas in life as well as get more experiencs too, and hopefully get a bit wiser as well? 😊

I’m meet my new era in my life with the idea that this is a new flowering in my life,- and I really like to look at the “getting older” process like that 🥀🌹.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

I meet my new era in my life with the imagination that it is a new period of flowering in my life 🌹🥀

I know some people in my age think that now the “flower withers” 😌. I choose to believe and look at this “getting older” process with an imagination that I’m meeting a new flowering in my life instead 🌹🥀.

#menopause #midlife #lifeexperiences #changes #challenges #process #midage #gettingolder #Norwegian #positivefocus #lifeisgood #livinginspain #lifeis #newexperiences #newflowringinlife 🌹

Where does the road go in my life now? 🛤💚

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

Like I mention in my last post,- I’m standing on the start line into a new era in my life. At the moment I’m standing and I choose to stand for a tiny little while too, because I just need to do this for myself. I need to feel on my feelings before I start “moving” in one or another direction in my life.

In one way I have some of the same thoughts I had when I was a teenager and was standing on the start line to be a young adult. What to do? Where to go? What can I expect? How do I do this? What do I want? Where do I want “go”? How to “get there”? What will happen there in the future? And so on. Maybe you recognize some of my thoughts from when you was a teenager and on the start line into the young adult life too? 🤔

To be honest,- I think I’m thinking a bit more about this different questions now then I actually did when I was a teenager and on my way to the young adult life. When I was a on my way to be a young adult I lived a bit more in the moment then I’m doing now. And I was also a bit more “what happens happens, it will probably be fun anyway” 😊.

I still think I have a very exciting time in front of me, and I still think I will meet on a lots of joy, fun and happiness,- but I’m probably a bit more conscious of my thoughts, my feelings, and hopefully my choices further too, – than for for example around 30 years ago 😊.

Will I continue be living in Spain? Work as an customer service agent, private teacher and freelance writer? 🎧📝 I have two of my three children here in Spain. At least at the moment,- but I don’t know what they’re plans will be in the future.

Or am I going to move back to Norway? Try to find a job as a teacher or maybe work in the home- nursery or at nursery home? 📚💉 I have one child in Norway, and I really do miss him, at the same time he is living his own life, and I’m not going to be the same part in his life as I was just some few years ago.

Or maybe I’m going to get the opportunity to move to California and squeeze some grapes into wine? 🍇🍷 Or maybe Ireland and visit the leprechaun 🧚‍♂️?

At the moment I don’t know what or where,- and at the moment I actually can’t take any choices either. At the moment I’m in a bit “emotional place” in my life and then it’s not the correct time to make to many and to big choices, elections and decisions in my life and for my future.

What I do know is that I’m going to live in the home I’m living in for a time now. I’m not ready to move anywhere at the moment,- and one of the reasons for that is because it has already been a bit moving in and out from this home during the last 18 months, – even it’s not me that has moved in and out 😊. I just need to have a tiny while of not to much moving “here and there”, just in way to “calm down” 😊.

But I’m actually not sure if I want to continue living in Spain or work as a costumer service agent “for ever”. Or as a private teacher either. But I’m not very tempted to move back to Norway either and work as a teacher or in the home- nursery up there in the North.

At the moment I feel I’m finish with being a teacher and to work in the home nursery, and also as a costumer service agent. But don’t we all have that now and then where you are a bit tired of your job?

And of course,- I’m also a bit “touched” with some emotional feelings because I’m standing on a finish line for one era in my life, as well as a starting line into a new era in my life 😊. So I’m probably not in “the best place” in my life to make any big decisions at the moment either 😊.

I know when we are turning the page on the calendar to August I’m finish working for the department I’m working in. It’s closing down in Norway. But I also know that the company I’m working for have an obligation to try to find an other job to me in the company as long as I have been an employer for more than 6 months,- something I have. But at the same time,- we are living in a corona- situation,- so it’s difficult to tell to much about the future too. I’m can assume what’s in front me until August, but after August I actually have no idea at the moment.

At the moment I have just decided to not do to much of anything, not make to many work- or moving plans or decisions, – just do my work where I’m working, be a private teacher and do my online freelance work, and live in the home I’m living in. Then I see what’s coming up, or what’s happen. I don’t know,- I don’t know if “the road” in the future will be in Spain or Norway or California or maybe another place.

What I do know is that I actually like to work with creative things, and people too,- and I like to see progression in my work too. But my weakness, or strength, is to create, be creative and see a result of my job.  A product.  My dream is really to be able to feed myself on something I make, write, create, paint – or even “squeeze” some grapes into wine? But is something of this actually possible, special because we are living in a corona- situation?

When that’s said,- of course I have seen a lots of great positive progressions in both my work as a teacher as well as in the home nursery 😊. But it’s a different kind of progression.

I want and I like to create, own a product, is a (physical) result of what I do, what I work with.  (ex- paint, knit, write, maybe make wine). But it possible to work and live from something like that? I don’t know.

I do not know what my future will bring me, – but something that contains both joy, happiness and probably a bit new knowledge as well as wisdom, and some changes too.

At the moment I take one tiny step at the time, one from an era that’s over and one into an era that’s started 💚. I need to find my balance in my life before I take to many decisions about my future 😊.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

I’m just going to take one step at the time – one from an era in my life that’s over, and one into the new era in my life 😊.

I don’t know what to future will bring me,- and I don’t know what kind of changes, choices or directions I’m going to do or take 😊. At the moment I just take one step from an era in my life that’s over, and one step at the time into a new era in my life 💚

#changes #directions #choices #lifeis #livinginspain #Norwegian #era #gettingolder #menopause #midlife #erainlife #me #future #questions #thelife #thougths #reflections #positivefocus 💚