Thank you May 🌹Welcome unknown June 🏖

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

May is already soon over, and this month went even faster then the other ones this year 😳 😊.

My “life” in May has mainly contained four things : sleep, eat, work, pack down our life in this home I’m living in at the moment, and have been living in during closely 7 year.

And yes I’m very tired, but that’s the way it is. Soon it will be a bit more time to “fill” up with a bit more “exciting” and different things in my life like painting ( I have actually been painting in May too, some kind of “timeout” has been necessary 🎨), spend time with my friends and family, be in the sun and at the beach, read a book, write in my blog, watch some TV, do some work out, and hopefully a bit more too 😊.

Oh, I need to admit I miss this “things”, this part of my life, things that in a way are my life a bit more then my job and jobs are.

May started a bit “stressful” for me with trying to find a new home, and without knowing if I had a job to go to after 31. July too 😳.

But so fare, so lucky 🥰. I got a new home for at least the next 6 months, and I’m moving in 17. June 🏡. This- Thanks to my incredible good friend Natasja and her husband 🧡. And I also got the news that I will start in a other department 1. August,- so I still will have a job to go too 💻.

So ,- May,- I can be Thankful for fantastic friendship, the possibility for living in a new home and for my “new” job, and my online jobs too that “helps” me do some extra work to earn some extra money 🧡🌹.

But I need to admit it’s a bit hard to work between 9 to 11 hours 5 days a week, and between 6 to 8 hours in the weekends 😴. It’s not a complain, I’m incredibly grateful for having this opportunity, but the fact is, it is still hard 😊.

I’m earning between 6 to 8 euro pr hour in both the costumer service agent job and my online work. So to manage the different expenses I will have in June during this moving process it’s actually necessary for me to work as much as I do at the moment. But okay,- everything goes for a period, doesn’t it? 😊 And I actually have jobs. That’s not for all and everyone to have now at days 🥀.

I’m really looking forward to “meet” June now. I don’t know “all and everything” that will “shows up” during June. But I do know I’m going to pick up the key to the new home, and Im going to see Natasja too 🥰. And I’m going to move- something I’m really looking forward to do now😊. I’m very ready for saying Goodbye to this home now,- and the owner of this home “helped” me to even make it easier to say Goodbye and be ready for this moving- process 😊. They became actually mad because I can’t effort their new rent. So it feels a bit uncomfortable to live and stay here at the moment.

And I know I have a holiday week in June too, to just enjoy. The week after I have moved I have one week off from work 🥰. Just the thought of that feels a bit amazing 😊.

So I don’t have very much to tell you or write about at the moment. It’s not to much exciting things that has happen during the last 2- 3 weeks,- except from sleeping, eating, working, packing down a life. Or actually I have a bit to write about, but I need to “save it all” to days I have a bit more time to just enjoying writing in my blog instead 😊.

Today I just want to say Thank you so much May ( and Natasja 🌹) , for the incredible solutions that “showed up” in a time when I didn’t see so many solutions at all 🥰. I feel incredibly Grateful, lucky and happy for that 🥰.

And Welcome so much to you June, – I’m looking forward to “meet” you even I don’t know very much about you yet 🏖☀️.

And to you my dear readers, – I’m going to “drop by” my blog as much as I can, have the possibility and have the energy too during the nexts weeks. The time, my time will be a bit better and different in a couple of weeks when I’m “placed” close to the beach in a new home, and then you will “hear/ read” a bit more from me, that’s for sure 🏖😊.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you as soon as possible 😘

A bit tired Laila S- doing as best as I can at the moment 😊

I just want to say Thank you so much May for the solutions that showed up this month when I didn’t see so many solutions on my own 🌹. And Welcome June,- I don’t know very much about you, but I do know Im looking forward to meet you🌹, and I’m looking forward to move too 🏡

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It takes a bit time to find the balance again 😊🥀

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

I have been living with some “moving in and out” from my home since the beginning of October 2019. And during this time I have found out it takes a bit time to find my balance in the new “living together” and “living alone” situations that has changed more and less every second or third month 😊.

Things goes okay, of course, but I need to try to find a kind of rhythm, routines and balance together with the people I’m living together with as well as my own rhythm, routines and balance when they has moved out again 😊.

The first month it’s a bit like trying out what’s most functional for the people who are living in my home as well as me. And then slowly during the second month it’s seems and feels like we get a kind of balance together, and things in the daily life goes a bit “smoother” and we in a way manage to create a kind of routine together as well as separate.

And then we turn into the third month and a new “round” of trying to find the balance starting again because someone has moved out, and someone is maybe soon moving in again 😊.

It’s almost a bit like I have to reset myself a little bit every time – whether it’s moving in or moving out.  If you understand what I mean?

In a living together situation it’s a bit important to find a balance more and less where everyone is a bit comfortable with. But it is not easy, because we are all different, we have different habits (good and not to good), and we see things in the daily life differently too.

I need to admit I think this “moving in and out” from my home have got smoother then I first had in mind. Maybe because in general it has been my children and their friends that have moved their suitcases in and out, so it’s people I actually know very well 😊.

Now I’m on my own again and have actually been living alone for around a month. I haven’t got or “found” the balance that’s feels best for me yet, but I’m getting closer 😊.

I need to admit I have felt a bit restless and inactive lately, and it has been a little difficult to create new good routines in my life. I’m not sure why I feel and have felt a bit restless, but probably because the life- and living situation has changed again, and I’m going “in and out” from my routines and balance in my life.

And of course this “getting older” process also is influential cause. But I have not quite managed to find my own peace in my everyday life yet.  And I like to have calm, balance, rhythm and routines in my daily life. And I’m not quite there yet…. Maybe I’m a bit a little impatient with myself? I know things takes a bit time sometimes 😊.

I have learned during this around 18 months with a changing life- situation every second and third month that it takes me around 8 to 10 weeks before I’m “there” I want to be and with the balance in my life I feel comfortable with. It doesn’t matter if it’s a living together situation or living on my own,- I’m actually comfortable and have learned to live with the new life situation after around 8- 10 weeks. So you can say I have been a bit “in and out” myself during this 18 months with a changing life- situation, and trying to find my new balance every second or third month 😅. But okay,- that’s life- and I think this time my living alone situation will last a bit longer then 2 or 3 months so I have the chance to find a very good balance in my life too 😊.

I’m not sure if anyone else has it this way? I don’t think the young adult that has been living in my home has felt this “balance” thing in the daily life at the same way as me. And I also think, well at least it looked like that for me, that this young adults found their balance in the daily life very fast, also when they moved into my home 😊. Of course I’m very happy for that, because then at least they felt like “home” and hopefully a bit relaxed with the living together situation 😊.

But I think as older we get a bit more difficult it is for us to “adopt” us into a new life situation, it’s more difficult because we are older, and it takes a bit longer time to feel comfortable and “balanced” in the new life situation. It’s not sure I’m correct. This is just my thoughts and feelings, and also my experiences during the last 18 months.

I’m doing my things, – my job, my freelance work, I knit and I paint too, and I meet my friends now and then as well. So I’m trying my very best to create a balance, my balance in my life. But I still have this restlessness inside me, and Im actually still very inactive in my life even it maybe doesn’t look like that from “the outside”,- and there’s still a couple of more routines I need to try to get a bit better “control” over in my daily life 😊. I’m actually in general a bit more effective then I have been the last month. Hopefully I will be “there” I want to be with my rhythms and routines in my daily life in the middle of May 😅.

Is it just me that is like this? Have this habit and need for having a kind of balance in my daily life, and a kind of rhythm and routines too? And is it just me that actually use over 2 months to “get” the balance in my life I feel comfortable with after some changes in the daily life balance? I hope not 😊. (Anyway I’m who I’m- like to have a kind of balance “here and there ” in my life 😊).

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡. Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

I feel I need to resett my self a bit after some months with “moving in and out” from my home 😊.

Is it just me that like to have a kind of balance in the daily life? I feel I need to resett my self a bit every time someone is moving in or out from my home, because I like to have a kind of balance in my daily life,- both when I’m sharing my home as well as living on my own 😊.

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Yin and yang, or similarities? 🏵💮

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

I have been thinking a bit about dating and relationship,- and why it’s seems like it’s “working” for some and others are not so lucky in the dating and relationship area.

I’m not dating anyone at moment, and I’m actually not sure I want “to put my self” in a dating and relationship “position” again either. You can say I haven’t been in the category “to lucky” when it comes to dating and relationship 😊. So maybe it’s better to just not date then?

I have been thinking about friendship too,- and why friendship in general seems to last a bit longer than a relationship. In most “cases” of course. Friendship can ends too.

What is the case that causes a relationship to be stable and functioning? And what is that one that a friendship works and is mostly stable? I don’t know,- I have just my own thoughts and experiences around this,- and it’s not sure they are correct.

In Norway we have different expressions, – “like children play best” and “opposites attract each other “. Maybe you have heard the expressions before?

In my mind both are correct. In my mind both expressions have some “truth”. But maybe one expression “suits” better for relationships and the other for friendship?

“Opposites attract each other ” is in a way a bit similar with the “yin and yang” ,- a conversational concept within and in from Chinese philosophy.

Yin is based on the earthly principle, and yang is the heavenly principle.

It is about two opposite symbols, and different forces that complement each other.  Such as cold-hot, dark-light, passive-active. The forces must complement each other, get a balance, create an interaction.

And as we know from the world of physics, opposites attract each other.  The positive and negative magnet are attracted to each other.  And we must also have a positive and negative pole in a battery for the battery to work, for the electrons to go from pole to pole and create, for example, light in a flashlight 💡.

So in my mind and from this perspective it’s logic that “opposites attract each other “,- and can create a good, lovely, stable and long term relationship 💞.

But then we have the expression “like children play best“,- as mean people with the same interest, hobbies, attitudes, thoughts, lifestyles, ethics and so on also work very well together.

When it comes to my own experiences, relationship and the expression “opposites attract each other ” I need to admit I have been attracted to the “oposite” from my self. If you understand what I mean?

But how good it has been working is an other thing 😅.

When it comes to friendship my best friends and friendship are the ones from the expression “like children play best” 😊. Friends I have something in common with in one or another way. It can be different life- experiences or life – situation, it can be work or hobbies or similar opinions or thoughts about different things. But in general there’s more then one “similar” thing that “connect” us and our friendship together,- and there are different connections that keeping the friendship together, stable, good and positive 🧡.

Then we have the research. It has actually been, in fact, both expressions of friendship and relationships have been researched.

And research shows that we are attracted to, or want, the “opposite” of ourselves in the search for a partner.  But, – that the relationships that last the longest and are happiest are the ones that are “most similar”, – if you understand what I mean?

But when I take a look at my friends and their relationships, both friendship and partner relationships, – I see that both work very well. Both “like children play best” and “opposites attract each other “. So maybe something “works” better for some, and something else better for others? That it is not really “a fixed template” when it comes to “what’s the best functional” for an relationship and what’s best for a friendship? It’s a bit individual?

Like I mention,- for me my best friend and friendship are based on “like children play best“. We have something in common, and something that connects our friendship together. And like I also mention,- when it comes to dating or men I have in general been attracted to “opposites attract each other “. I can’t say if that’s way and the reason my dating and relationship hasn’t been working very well. It’s a bit more reasons connected to why it didn’t worked out and also why I chose to not date, at the moment or maybe “forever”.

But it’s not sure other have the same experiences as me in this case and area.

If I, one day, choose to “go back there” into the dating area I think it would and could be a good thing for me to have this in mind,- that maybe a good combination of both “like children play best” and “opposites attract each other ” will be the best solutions for me and a relationship? But will it be possible to meet someone where you feel both the expression are complete in one? 🤔

I don’t know, but I actually think it’s possible. It just depends what kind of like children play best” I need in the relation and what kinds of “opposites attract each other ” I need too 😊. At the moment I don’t know, time will show 😊.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡.

See you soon 😊

I didn’t had any “yin- ysng” symptoms- but I had a sweet panda- hecis from China too,- and with the colours he in his own way can represent and be a symbol for my text to day 😊

“Like children play best” and “opposites attract each other “,- two different expressions that are opposite from each other, but at the same time both can describe a good relationship and a good friendship 🏵. I don’t think there’s any “fixed template” for a good relationship or friendship 💞. I think it is a bit more individual than that 😊.

#yinyang #friendship #relationship #similarities #mythoughts #lifeis #myblog #mylife #positivefocus 😊

JustLailaS is now JustLailaS 😊🥀

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

Like I mention in a post for around a month ago I’m changing my domain name to my blog 😊. It’s no more mybumpyshininglife.com only Justlailas.com from now 😊.

And it feels very correct for me to do this change now at days, and I’m also comfortable with using my own name at my blog domain now 😊.

It has been a kind of process for me from mybumpyshininglife to JustLailaS. My focus on my domain name at that time was that my life felt a bit bumpy but also very shiny 🌞. But at that time, when I chose the name for my blog and domain name, my focus was also very much about “the bump” that dropped me off in Spain with a couple of kids in my suitcase. I’m not there anymore, – and that feels incredibly great 🥰.

I in a way did write me “out of it”, and that’s a very good feeling 😊.

It feels also as a good time to change name on my blog and domain name now when I’m standing on one “stop line” in my life as well as a new “start line” in my life too 😊. And from now it is “just me” too, but of course my blog will still contain my children too, as well as other friends and family that are important for me in my life 🧡.

It will still contain my art and what’s happen in my life- small and big things, stuffs and happenings. And it will still contain some of my thoughts about and around different subjects in life as well as dreams too 😊. And I’m still going to try to take and use my own photos as well to my texts.

It’s actually not many different changes in my blog, it’s more the symbolic name change that is the biggest changes in my blog. And the name change is more symbolic for me then my readers 😊.

And in a couple of weeks I’m also going to get an email connected to my blog,- something I’m actually looking forward to 😊. It’s not sure I will get any emails, but it feels nice to just have the possibility for my readers to contact me on an email if they want to 😊.

And hopefully there will be some new brands or banners in my blog too. One thing at the time,- and the first step was to change my domain name and name at my blog 😊.

I’m looking forward to continue writing in my blog, and I hope you also are looking forward to read my blog and posts now and then 😊.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

Laila S. from April 2021 😊

I have changed my domain name at my blog,- and it feels as the correct time in my life to do this change 😊. It’s also a tiny bit symbolic change of the name since I’m on my way out from inexera in my life and on my way into a new era in my life 🥰.

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Welcome April with the Spring 🥀🐣 Thank you March for the different experiences 😊🐦

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

April is knocking on the door and has already started. I like it when we turn to April and the Spring. It’s getting lighter, warmer and more colours in the nature. Flowers are growing up and the trees get soft, greens leafs 🍃.

I can say Thank you so much March 🥀. Not one of my favourite months, but still I need to say it became a pretty good month 😊.

I went to Madrid on my own, a trip I didn’t looked very much forward too, but it became a very good trip 🚂. And my daughter moved out and to her own apartment, and enjoying her young adult life 🏠. My son in the middle got a permanent working contract in Norway, and I’m incredibly happy for him 🥰. And my oldest son was on a visit too, an did also helped me out with a couple of things in my home 🏡.

The plan was that I was going to change my working situations too as a costumer service agent in March. Lucky for me this plans changed back again so I can continue working for the same department as well as from my home some more months , something I’m both relieved over as well as thankful for 🎧💻. But,- wow,- there has been some pretty busy days on the phone line the last days, actually last two weeks 🎧.

I have used some really good quality time together with some of my friends 🥰, as well as time to paint, knit and writing in my blog 🎨🧶. And a bit time to sleeping too, actually a lot 😴.

The freelance work situation is a bit better then it has been so fare during this year. But my economy is still a bit pressed, but for some reasons I’m not so stressed as I in general became when there’s a bit to much press on my money. I don’t know why I’m not stressed, but it feels so good to not be stressed. One reason why I don’t feel on this stress that’s I normally get under “economic situations” like this, can be because I’m only taking care of myself now, and then it’s a bit easier to deal with not to much money when it’s just me 😊.

I have had some very fast, but nice walking trips to the work office, and I also had some “company” in my patio even that one “disappear a bit to fast 😔.

So Thank you so much, March,- it was actually very nice to meet you after all 🍂🌷.

And I wish you very Welcome April with the soft Spring in the air 🍃🥀. I’m not sure what this month will bring me,- but I know the month starts with some Easter Holiday, and that feels very good. It’s going to be great with some day “off” as customer service agent 🎧.

I know my oldest son is going to drop by one of the days, as well as my daughter. It will be great to see them both again as always 🥰.

My plan for April is work as much as I can with the freelance work. That’s the first priority. Then it’s painting, knitting, spent time together with my friends- and all this have the same priority for me, even its different things- they still gives me a lots of joy, happiness and positive energies 💚.

And yes,- make good plans, both over the days, weeks and hopefully months too 😊. And try to start with as regular workout and exercises routines as possible- that one will be hard, I just know it, feel it in all of my body 😅. But it’s necessary too, for both my body and my mind 😊.

I can’t actually imagine that there will be to many changes and challenges in front of me now,- but as we all know, – life is, and life is filled up with different kinds of suprices 🙏. So I can’t be sure on anything actually, but I can hope and wish for some “easy going” days, weeks, months now 🧡🙏.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

Flowers from March month 🥀

Thank you so much, March 🥀- not one of my favourite months became not to bad at all 💚. I wish April very welcome together with the soft Spring air 🍃. I don’t know what the days and weeks will bring, but hopefully not to many changes and challenges now 🙏🧡.

#march #april #lifeis #myblog #mylife #mypost #lifeexperiences #changes #challenges #experiences #positivefocus #lifeisgood #thelife #thedailylife #feelinggrateful #feelinglucky #feelingthankful 🧡🙏