Today it’s my daughter’s day 🎈🎉🥰

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

The time flies 🛫. Today it’s 21 years since I hold my daughter in my arms for the first time 🥰. My third and last little baby duck is not so much baby duck anymore,- she is actually a young woman at the age of 21.

She was like a tiny little doll when she was born, the sweetest baby girl I have ever seen 🥰. And she was mine, and of course her daddy’s , little girl too. She was born in the same birth room at the same hospital that her oldest brother, but not on the same date or time. Or all my three children are actually born on a Friday for some reason.

I remember the new year evening in 1999 when we turned into 2000, my ex husband, me, my/ our sons and his two older daughters was standing outside and looked at the beautiful and colorful fireworks that brought us from 1999 to 2000. I stood and thought of everyone who wanted a “2000 child”, “a millennium year baby”, and I felt that I was so happy and glad I was not “there” anymore, that I was very happy and grateful for my two healthy, wild, lovely, fantastic and imaginative sons 💙💙.

But still for some reasons more and less 11 months later I did have this “a millennium year baby” I was so happy for I was not going to “struggle” to be pregnant with during 2000 😅. Probably she should in her own way “complete” the family – and I can just say I/ we did wish her so very, very welcome into our life, and I/ we are so incredibly grateful for this very, very sweet and nice “suprice” in 2000 ❤.

She has always been a very quiet, nice and smiling girl. Not a lots of crying and not a lots of challenges when she grew up. Maybe the biggest “challenge” when she did grew up was her selective mutisme? But she managed to “deal” with that one in her own way, little by little, and step by step, and of course also with some help from professionals in the field too.

She was a bit worried for her birthday this year, today. That it shouldn’t be a too nice day, something I can understand. The last year, last 11- 12 months hasn’t been the easiest for her and have given her some bit of challenges in her young life. But out from the different challenges there’s also growing up a strong, young woman who maybe have a bit more experiences in life, a bit more life experiences then other people at her age. And from life experiences there also grows up knowledge and wisdom 💛.

It is during different challenges we also learn about the life and about our self, how to handle and deal with different things, stuffs and situations in life, and also different people we meet on our “road”.

But of course as her mammi I can say I should really wish she was without some of the different challenges and experiences she has been through, at the same time as I know the different changes, challenges and experiences in my daughter’s life also has given her strength, knowledge and wisdom 💛.

It was a happy birthday “girl” I brought in some chocolate cake and a gift to this morning 🥰. She was happy because she was remembered from her friends “here and there and every where”, as well as her family both in Norway as well as in Spain remember her today 😊. And of course I choose to believe that the birthday chocolate cake I did “served” to her in her bed this morning, like I did when she was younger, also “made” her day a tiny bit 😊.

My daughter is 21 year today- it’s her birthday,- and she started her “celebration” with some congratulations from friends, family and colleagues at different social media channels as well as a tiny gift and some chocolate cake from me as a “birthday breakfast” in her bed 🎊🎁

My daughter is a very sweet girl, has a big good heart for both animals and people. She always try to see the good thing in a person as well as help both animals and people in the ways she has the possibility to do. She is a quiet young  woman, with a very good  sense of justice. And she is a young hardworking  woman too. She have different goals in her life and she works hard to get them. And I mean hard. She is “just” 21 year old, and she can easily work  12 hours shift on a Saturday instead of going to a party because she knows that that will bring her closer to her goals. But of course she spent time together with her friends as well in the weekends.

She is going to celebrate her birthday today together with good friends and colleagues this afternoon, and I know she will get an amazing time together with them all 🥰.

My daughter when she was around 5 years old- a sweet , healthy and happy little girl ❤

I’m so grateful for the nice surprise 2000 brought into my life ❤. My love to her is unconditional- and I know she knows that 🧡. I feel so rich and lucky to have her in my life and to be her mammi, and I’m so proud of her and how she handles the different challenges and experiences in her life. And I’m so proud ot being her mammi ❤.

So today I just want to say,- Congratulations with your 21. birthday my amazing and beautiful daughter, my third and last baby duck 🐣. I wish you all the best for every day in your life – for the day today and for all the days you have in front of you ❤. Must the stars shine on you like you shine on and in my days and life ❤🌟.

I wish you all a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡. Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡.

See you soon 😊

Birthday- gift and some birthday chocolate cake to my daughter’s 21. Birthday- and a tiny photo dome years ago- her photo to her daily train ticket to her job 😊.

This is a fantastic day for me, and have been every year during the last 21 years,- because my daughter was born ❤. I’m so proud of her, and I feel so incredibly grateful for being this wonderful and fantastic young woman’s mammi ❤. Must the stars shine on you  every day in your life, like you every day shine on and in my days and life ❤🌟. All the best wishes to you from your proud mammi 🥰😘❤.

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She is back in the nest 🐣 🍂🧡

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

Some weeks ago, or it’s probably a month ago, I did write a post I called “I will probably do it again and again “. It was about my kids moving in and out from my home. At that time it was my oldest son and a friend of him that moved in and out for some weeks. And I need to admit I’m a bit tired of it. This moving- in and out 😅.

It feels like I put my things, my life, my plans a bit “on hold” for a while under this “moving process”- and I also in a way does that. And of course,- when I got people in my home, and not just people, but my children, I feel on responsibility 🏡.

Because that’s actually what’s happen when you live together with someone, it doesn’t matter who, you still have a kind of responsibility to makes things “work” in a comment home,- even if it’s together with the children, a friend or a boyfriend/ girlfriend and so one.

It’s probably “easier” to live together with my children, because we have lived together for many years, but at the same time not. When I live together with my children I’m “the mammi”. You maybe understand what I mean?

Both of my sons are organized, but my daughter not so much for some strange reason. And I like to have it organized around me. But all my three children help out in the home as best as they can when they live together with me,- so I have not to much to complain about when it comes to that- but it’s still this “responsibility”- thing that you have in different kinds of relationships, special a living together situation.

But still when it comes to my children, no matter how tired I’m of this moving in and out from my home,- I will always and over and over and over again let them move in, let them rest, take care of them, be their mammi, be there for them- mo matter what❤. It’s a part of this unconditional love I feel and have for all three of them ❤.

And now my daughter is back in the nest again. I did see this was coming a while ago, so I was a bit mentally prepared this time for a new moving in- process. Why she move back to the nest again is her story, and not for me to tell this time. My story is that I’m a mammi, her mammi, and I care so much for her and love her so unconditional that it’s not a question what I want or not. Not a question how tired I’m.

My child needs me- it’s so easy as that. And then Im here for her, and my sons too ❤. I will always be there for my children no matter how tired I’m. And I’m a bit tired now, to organize my home and then re- organize it a bit too so it’s a bit more practical to live here for my kids too. And I’m a bit tired of live together with someone, even my children.

I have dreams on my own, for my self, and also I really like to live on my own, to just have the responsibility for just myself and no one else for a while. Do my things in my way. Be just me 😊.

This is not a secret for my children,- they know I’m very ready to just continue live alone, they know I’m a bit tired, but at the same time as they also know they will always come first, they will always be welcome and stay as long as they need 🧡.

An other thing, this time I have been a bit better to continue doing and working with my own plans and dreams, and not put to much ” on hold”, except from a couple of days when I needed to re- organize the home a bit. That’s a positive change for me- that I have manage that 😊. Maybe I’m starting to get use to this moving- in and out so it’s easier for my to continue doing “my things”?

And I have decided that when there hasn’t been any kind of any moving process, not in and out, not for my children, not for myself for at least 6 months- maybe then I can “brag” about my new “alone era” in my life? Maybe then I can “brag” about a new period and epoch in my life? Because obviously I’m still not there- that’s for sure 😅.

At the moment it seems that I’m in a kind of middle way process- finish with raising up my kids, finish with the mammi responsibility, finish with living together with them- but in a way still not finish …..but for how long? I don’t know.

Obviously my children really like my nest too- that’s for sure 🐣🥰. And that’s actually a good thing 🧡. Because if not, they probably haven’t come back home again and again and again 😊.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See soon, I hope 😊.

My daughter and me- she is back in the nest again 🐣 ( I know I’m tired- I know I look tired too- but that’s the way it is 😴)

She is back in the nest again 🐣. Why she is back in the nest is her story- my “story” is that I’m a bit tired now😴 – but still I’m going to do it over and over and over again for my children ❤. And obviously my kids like my nest too, because they continue coming back to it 🥰🐣.

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It has been a bit difficult to be a bit “mammi” for my daughter lately 😳 💊🧪

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

I haven’t seen my daughter for a while, – and it’s a reason for that 😳. Last time she and her boyfriend, Caprino, visit me was 8. July, and she was not quite “tipp- topp” that day, but I thought she maybe just was a bit tired 😴. And of course I did hug her that day, a lot too 😳….but after some days I was not so sure how smart that hugging was? 🤔

Just a few days after they had visited me she became sick, and texted me about the symptoms and how to contact the doctor and so on. This is just not typical her. In general she actually try to do her best to go or do her work even when she doesn’t feel very well, and she try to avoid the doctors as best as she can too. So she must felt very bad 😔.

I actually asked her if she wanted to come to me and stay in my home for some days and get some “mammi-love and care” when she was sick. I wanted to take a bit care of her, cut up apples into small pieces for her the way she likes so much to get when she is sick 🍏🍎. But she didn’t had the energy to come, and lucky for me actually, – and she also have a love and caring boyfriend, so he have taken care of her as best as he can during the last two weeks 🥰. And the best thing, at the same time strange thing,- her boyfriend hasn’t been as sick as my daughter so he could actually take good care of her too 🧡.

But I’m just a mammi, and I was suddenly in a “situation” where I actually wasn’t quite sure what to do. Should I visit her or not? Special because I wasn’t either sure why she was sick…..and what kind of sickness it was? Maybe she had got something “grumpy stuff” that I could get too if I was to close to her? 🤔

Should I visit my daughter or not? I was not sure what to do or how to handle the “situation” 😔.

In general my daughter answer my textes when I’m sending her a text on Messenger, What’s up or on Snapchat. But during this two last weeks she has been incredibly slow with the answering, and then the mammi heart gets a bit worried, special because I knew she didn’t felt very well 😳. At the same time,- she is a young adult woman, she lives on her own, well not totally, – she lives together with her boyfriend and their two cats 🐱, and have no reason to “update” the mammi “all the time”, not even answer me if it’s not a concrete question I’m sending to her. But we have the contact we have,’ so I’m actually used to answers from her, even on texts without any specific questions.

I did call her on the phone too, but she didn’t answer, just texted me “What?” back instead 😳. Oh my,- I knew something was wrong or she was really sick 😳. But what to do? Send her “all my love and heart and thinkg of you” at least 🧡.

She had been to the doctor several times, and today her doctor called me up on my phone 😳. I got the heart up in my throat 😳. But he just wanted to tell me it was incredible important that my daughter went to the hospital today as soon as possible, so then she did….and phu,- she was with me on the phone too 🙂.

She send my an video Snapchat where she also texted me “It’s never a good sign when you are put in the waiting room totally alone” 😳. And of course it’s not a good sign,- but at least she got the answer from the different testes she have been through,- and of course a version of the coronavirus just needed to drop by into my family too 😔.

A part of over “conversation” today, – but in Norwegian.

Actually I knew it could be something like this,- and that’s why I was so unsure what to do? Visit her or not? Taking care of her or not? And get the virus myself too 🤔? Nope, I didn’t want that either.

The result from my daughter’s test at the hospital today.

So it has been a bit difficult to be a bit mammi for my daughter thise two last weeks,- or that’s not totally true,- I’m always her mammi and it’s not difficult either 😅 , but this time I had no possibility to take care of her in any other way then text her and call her when she was sick and also needed a bit of the “mammi care and love” just because she was sick 🌹.

But that’s the way it is now at days when some or another version of the coronavirus are “tumbling around the corners” 😳.

To avoid more infection of the virus and spread it’s just to keep distance as best as we can, even when our young adults children are sick and you actually just want to visit them, hug them a bit and take care of them ❤. But the best was not to do that this time, in this situation, even I didn’t like it very much, and try my best to avoid any infection or spreading the virus in some or another way.

I really hope you do your best to avoid infection and spread the virus in some or another way. I know it’s not easy now at days, but to do our best is still better then nothing. Remember to keep distance, remember the mask ( I don’t like the mask- but Im still following the restrictions), and remember to wash your hands. And also try as best as you can to have as few “close contacts” as possible,- it’s actually helps a big that too. But yes I need to admit I do hug my contacts- my children, my friends,- even I know I can get and I can give the coronavirus by a hug.

Take as good care as you can, – that’s actually “all” we can do during this corona- situation. It is what it is, and we need to try to do our best in the situation we all are in 🧡. The best is always better then nothing 🌹.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon😊

My daughter, Mathilde and her boyfriend, Caprino, the last time they visited me before she got sick 🧡

I’m just a mammi, and I was suddenly  in a “situation” where I actually wasn’t quite sure what to do 🤔 ? Visit my daughter or not? Taking care of her or not 🤔? Lucky for me she have someone special in her life that takes care of her 🧡. Special because I actually just don’t want this “grumpy stuff” that’s are “around the corners ” now at days 😳.

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She did “design” it, I made it 😊👗🧶

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

Like some of you know I like to knit,- and I have actually knit since I was 12 years old. And I did knit the first baby clothes to my children too. Their first clothes they used from the hospital and home 🤱.

I have knit a lots of different clothes to my children during the years when they was younger. But when they became older “mammi’s” knit clothes was not so popular for a while. Which was okay for me, I understood that 😊.

But when they became young adults I asked again if they wanted or needed some knit clothes. My oldest son wanted some different sweaters, my middle son didn’t want to much, and not my daughter either, before recently 😊.

I have actually asked her a couple of time if she wanted to draw something she wanted me to knit for her, because she is both creative and she draw very good. ( Im probably not very natural- of course , I think her drawings are good 🥰). But the interest has not been to big before she did see some knit clothes on a social media channel 🧶. Then she asked me if I could knit something for her, – and of course I wanted 🥰.

So she did made me a drawing over what she wanted me to knit, we bought the yarn together so she got the colours she wanted, and she moved out….and I forgot to take good to measure how far, wide and so on by her before she moved out 😳.

So I have actually tried my very best to knit “by my head” as well and asked her during the knit “process” how long and so on.

I need to say the results was not to bad at all,- and she was quite happy too 🥰. And I liked it too. I hope she will ask me again to do something like this for and to her😊.

My daughter in her new knit clothes- “designed” by her, and made by me 🧶

Not to bad at all 🥰. I know it was not the most “complicated” clothes to knit, but I’m a bit proud over the result, – and it suits my daughter so perfect 🥰.

My daughter’s drawing, and that’s what I knot this clothes from- nothing more 🧶

I also made her a tights too. Design by me and made by me. I have actually knit 6 different tights this winter. Two to a friend, three to my self and one to my daughter 🧶. They are so nice to use during the cold winter- time. Soft, warm and comfortable.

So when she visited me this weekend she got a different things and stuffs with her in her back- bag to her apartment 😊. Some knit clothes and some homemade food as well 😊. And of course it was incredible great to see her again and give her some good hugs as well 😊.

I was very excited how her skirt and top would suit her, special because I haven’t very much else to knit from and by then a drawing and my mind. But we are both very happy with the finish product. Good teamwork 😊.

It has been a very nice, relaxing and cozy weekend with some “luxury” for my self, and incredibly nice visit from my daughter 🥰.

I hope your weekend has brought you some happiness and joy too 🧡.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡. Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

My daughter in her new knit clothes- skirt, top- “designed” by my daughter, and a tights “designed” by me – and it all made by me 😊🧶.

My daughter asked me if I could knit some clothes to her 🧶,- and I asked her if she could draw to me what she wanted me to make 😊. So more and less with just a drawing and my mind I made a nice summer outfit to her 🥰. Good teamwork by daughter and mammi with a good result too 😊.

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A tiny blue toast for new adventures 🥂😊

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

My daughter has moved out from my/ our home, again, and this time we both are pretty sure it will like this for a time, that we will have our separate homes in the future, but still be in each other’s life 🏡.

It feels good to be “on my own” , at the same time as I need to admit it felt a bit empty without her 😊. But this is the way it is and will be, and it’s fine for both her and me 😊.

We had a tiny little blue toast before she moved out. A blue toast for new adventures in both our lifes, probably very different adventures, but still adventures for us both. Adventures we both are looking forward to experiencing even we have no idea what kind of adventures that are in front of us 😊. But I think it will be some good adventures 💛.

A blue toast for new adventures 🥂

I can say we choose the blue toast because of the symbolic for the blue colour 🎨, but that’s not totally true . It became blue because I need some more glassbottles to paint on, and this one was the cheapest and had also the lowest alcohol level 😊.

Non of us had any need for a lots of “bubbles in our blood” 😊. She was going to move the day after and a bit early in the morning as well, and I was going to work. And this toast also was more a symbolic toast for us A toast for the time we had spent together as well as for the time we have in front of us 😊.

My daughter has this time arranged everything on her own. No help from mammi. She had found the apartment on her own, and arranged the moving with a separate moving car too. I don’t have a car at the moment, but she did find a solution on her own 😊. She has also packed and organized her things on her own, without interference from me. I’m just a mammi so it’s sometimes a bit to difficult to not interference, but I manage to “keep calm” 😅.

2/3 of my daughter’s things and stuff- organize without any interference from me 😊

We was both a bit tired of living together now. I think probably because we knew it was closer and closer to “the moving day”, and also because we are different. We arrange our home and life differently, something that’s also very natural, even we are mammi and daughter. But we are anyway in different stages in life.

It’s small things that can irritate us. Like for example what is mess in my eyes it’s not mess in her eyes. But all in all I need to say,- this living together period has went incredibly well. No fighting or yelling, just a bit “grumping” now and then 😊. And some of this “grumpiness” it’s my “mistake”. It’s this “menopause” and things that can irritate me for actually no reason 😳. I haven’t been like that before 🙄. But to be honest,- I think I have manage to “deal” with my grumpiness in a okay way, and my daughter too 😅. ( It’s going to be good to be grumpy totally alone now, no need for “put my self together” when I’m grumpy 😅).

Plants I have growing up for my daughter 🌱🍀

When my sons moved out their first time they got a basket each filled up with food and soft drinks for around 50 euro each. Food and soft drinks like juice, pasta, different sauces, snacks, ect.

When my daughter moved out her first time she didn’t get anything from me because we knew she was going to move back home for a while 6 months after. But when she moved out again the Autumn 2020 she (and her now ex-boyfriend) got 2 cava and the plan was also to give her (they) some plants I had been growing up for them. But because of the different restrictions I didn’t manage to give the plants to her before she suddenly was back home to my home again. But this time she got the plants with her in the moving car 😊.

To have some plants in the home create the home a bit more homely, and plants creates also a different and good atmosphere 🌳. At least I think so 😊. And plants in their own way represented “growing” 🌞.

I did gave my daughter something else too, as “a moving out gift”, a bit like a kind of a basket filled up with food, but instead of a basket filled up with food she actually got a “food box” where I have put away 5 euro for every week we has been living together this time ( it became 13 weeks) , and I also put a notebook and a pen into the box📝.

As a single mammi I have in general needed to think economic, and one of my economic priorities has been how I shop food. In general I shop food once a week, and I actually have a “food box” in my kitchen with the weekly amount I/ we in general need for food. And then I write down on a shopping list what’s necessary to buy for the next week of food and drinks.

In general this has function very well, except from the last 18 months when I have had a lots of “moving in and out” traffic in my home 😊. It’s not easy to “balance” the food, drinks and money to use when there are different types of people living in my home 😊. But this is actually a good way, at least for me, to have a bit control over the economy.

And I have tried to learn my children this tiny little “trick” of saving money too 😊.

My daughter’s new “food box” to have in her kitchen and keep the weekly amount of “food money” and a pen and a note book to write down what she need to buy for the next week. And 2 sweet chocolate bars too and a matchbox is always good to have 😊 And 7 plants as well to her new apartment 😊.

I’m not rich on money, but I’m creative 😊. And my daughter was very happy and grateful for this “Congratulations with your new home” gift from me 😊.

Ps 1- my first days “on my own” has not yet been on my own 😊. My oldest son, his friend and my son’s dog dropped by, and then a friend of me dropped by after they had left 😊. And Ps 2- I’m really looking forward to get a bit control over my own “food box” in my kitchen again, as well as be able to save a bit on both the electricity and water too now- it is what it is to live together with someone else, but I’m looking forward to get a bit more control over my own economy again 😊.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

My daughter’s “food box” to her new kitchen 😊📝

Me and my daughter had a symbolic toast together the evening before she moved out 🥂. A blue toast for new adventures 😊. And she also got some tiny “Congratulations with your new home” gifts from me, maybe symbolic in their own way? 😊📝🌳 Plants for “growing” and a “food box” for economy ? 😊.

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