It has been a bit difficult to be a bit “mammi” for my daughter lately 😳 💊🧪

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

I haven’t seen my daughter for a while, – and it’s a reason for that 😳. Last time she and her boyfriend, Caprino, visit me was 8. July, and she was not quite “tipp- topp” that day, but I thought she maybe just was a bit tired 😴. And of course I did hug her that day, a lot too 😳….but after some days I was not so sure how smart that hugging was? 🤔

Just a few days after they had visited me she became sick, and texted me about the symptoms and how to contact the doctor and so on. This is just not typical her. In general she actually try to do her best to go or do her work even when she doesn’t feel very well, and she try to avoid the doctors as best as she can too. So she must felt very bad 😔.

I actually asked her if she wanted to come to me and stay in my home for some days and get some “mammi-love and care” when she was sick. I wanted to take a bit care of her, cut up apples into small pieces for her the way she likes so much to get when she is sick 🍏🍎. But she didn’t had the energy to come, and lucky for me actually, – and she also have a love and caring boyfriend, so he have taken care of her as best as he can during the last two weeks 🥰. And the best thing, at the same time strange thing,- her boyfriend hasn’t been as sick as my daughter so he could actually take good care of her too 🧡.

But I’m just a mammi, and I was suddenly in a “situation” where I actually wasn’t quite sure what to do. Should I visit her or not? Special because I wasn’t either sure why she was sick…..and what kind of sickness it was? Maybe she had got something “grumpy stuff” that I could get too if I was to close to her? 🤔

Should I visit my daughter or not? I was not sure what to do or how to handle the “situation” 😔.

In general my daughter answer my textes when I’m sending her a text on Messenger, What’s up or on Snapchat. But during this two last weeks she has been incredibly slow with the answering, and then the mammi heart gets a bit worried, special because I knew she didn’t felt very well 😳. At the same time,- she is a young adult woman, she lives on her own, well not totally, – she lives together with her boyfriend and their two cats 🐱, and have no reason to “update” the mammi “all the time”, not even answer me if it’s not a concrete question I’m sending to her. But we have the contact we have,’ so I’m actually used to answers from her, even on texts without any specific questions.

I did call her on the phone too, but she didn’t answer, just texted me “What?” back instead 😳. Oh my,- I knew something was wrong or she was really sick 😳. But what to do? Send her “all my love and heart and thinkg of you” at least 🧡.

She had been to the doctor several times, and today her doctor called me up on my phone 😳. I got the heart up in my throat 😳. But he just wanted to tell me it was incredible important that my daughter went to the hospital today as soon as possible, so then she did….and phu,- she was with me on the phone too 🙂.

She send my an video Snapchat where she also texted me “It’s never a good sign when you are put in the waiting room totally alone” 😳. And of course it’s not a good sign,- but at least she got the answer from the different testes she have been through,- and of course a version of the coronavirus just needed to drop by into my family too 😔.

A part of over “conversation” today, – but in Norwegian.

Actually I knew it could be something like this,- and that’s why I was so unsure what to do? Visit her or not? Taking care of her or not? And get the virus myself too 🤔? Nope, I didn’t want that either.

The result from my daughter’s test at the hospital today.

So it has been a bit difficult to be a bit mammi for my daughter thise two last weeks,- or that’s not totally true,- I’m always her mammi and it’s not difficult either 😅 , but this time I had no possibility to take care of her in any other way then text her and call her when she was sick and also needed a bit of the “mammi care and love” just because she was sick 🌹.

But that’s the way it is now at days when some or another version of the coronavirus are “tumbling around the corners” 😳.

To avoid more infection of the virus and spread it’s just to keep distance as best as we can, even when our young adults children are sick and you actually just want to visit them, hug them a bit and take care of them ❤. But the best was not to do that this time, in this situation, even I didn’t like it very much, and try my best to avoid any infection or spreading the virus in some or another way.

I really hope you do your best to avoid infection and spread the virus in some or another way. I know it’s not easy now at days, but to do our best is still better then nothing. Remember to keep distance, remember the mask ( I don’t like the mask- but Im still following the restrictions), and remember to wash your hands. And also try as best as you can to have as few “close contacts” as possible,- it’s actually helps a big that too. But yes I need to admit I do hug my contacts- my children, my friends,- even I know I can get and I can give the coronavirus by a hug.

Take as good care as you can, – that’s actually “all” we can do during this corona- situation. It is what it is, and we need to try to do our best in the situation we all are in 🧡. The best is always better then nothing 🌹.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon😊

My daughter, Mathilde and her boyfriend, Caprino, the last time they visited me before she got sick 🧡

I’m just a mammi, and I was suddenly  in a “situation” where I actually wasn’t quite sure what to do 🤔 ? Visit my daughter or not? Taking care of her or not 🤔? Lucky for me she have someone special in her life that takes care of her 🧡. Special because I actually just don’t want this “grumpy stuff” that’s are “around the corners ” now at days 😳.

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She did “design” it, I made it 😊👗🧶

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

Like some of you know I like to knit,- and I have actually knit since I was 12 years old. And I did knit the first baby clothes to my children too. Their first clothes they used from the hospital and home 🤱.

I have knit a lots of different clothes to my children during the years when they was younger. But when they became older “mammi’s” knit clothes was not so popular for a while. Which was okay for me, I understood that 😊.

But when they became young adults I asked again if they wanted or needed some knit clothes. My oldest son wanted some different sweaters, my middle son didn’t want to much, and not my daughter either, before recently 😊.

I have actually asked her a couple of time if she wanted to draw something she wanted me to knit for her, because she is both creative and she draw very good. ( Im probably not very natural- of course , I think her drawings are good 🥰). But the interest has not been to big before she did see some knit clothes on a social media channel 🧶. Then she asked me if I could knit something for her, – and of course I wanted 🥰.

So she did made me a drawing over what she wanted me to knit, we bought the yarn together so she got the colours she wanted, and she moved out….and I forgot to take good to measure how far, wide and so on by her before she moved out 😳.

So I have actually tried my very best to knit “by my head” as well and asked her during the knit “process” how long and so on.

I need to say the results was not to bad at all,- and she was quite happy too 🥰. And I liked it too. I hope she will ask me again to do something like this for and to her😊.

My daughter in her new knit clothes- “designed” by her, and made by me 🧶

Not to bad at all 🥰. I know it was not the most “complicated” clothes to knit, but I’m a bit proud over the result, – and it suits my daughter so perfect 🥰.

My daughter’s drawing, and that’s what I knot this clothes from- nothing more 🧶

I also made her a tights too. Design by me and made by me. I have actually knit 6 different tights this winter. Two to a friend, three to my self and one to my daughter 🧶. They are so nice to use during the cold winter- time. Soft, warm and comfortable.

So when she visited me this weekend she got a different things and stuffs with her in her back- bag to her apartment 😊. Some knit clothes and some homemade food as well 😊. And of course it was incredible great to see her again and give her some good hugs as well 😊.

I was very excited how her skirt and top would suit her, special because I haven’t very much else to knit from and by then a drawing and my mind. But we are both very happy with the finish product. Good teamwork 😊.

It has been a very nice, relaxing and cozy weekend with some “luxury” for my self, and incredibly nice visit from my daughter 🥰.

I hope your weekend has brought you some happiness and joy too 🧡.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡. Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

My daughter in her new knit clothes- skirt, top- “designed” by my daughter, and a tights “designed” by me – and it all made by me 😊🧶.

My daughter asked me if I could knit some clothes to her 🧶,- and I asked her if she could draw to me what she wanted me to make 😊. So more and less with just a drawing and my mind I made a nice summer outfit to her 🥰. Good teamwork by daughter and mammi with a good result too 😊.

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A tiny blue toast for new adventures 🥂😊

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

My daughter has moved out from my/ our home, again, and this time we both are pretty sure it will like this for a time, that we will have our separate homes in the future, but still be in each other’s life 🏡.

It feels good to be “on my own” , at the same time as I need to admit it felt a bit empty without her 😊. But this is the way it is and will be, and it’s fine for both her and me 😊.

We had a tiny little blue toast before she moved out. A blue toast for new adventures in both our lifes, probably very different adventures, but still adventures for us both. Adventures we both are looking forward to experiencing even we have no idea what kind of adventures that are in front of us 😊. But I think it will be some good adventures 💛.

A blue toast for new adventures 🥂

I can say we choose the blue toast because of the symbolic for the blue colour 🎨, but that’s not totally true . It became blue because I need some more glassbottles to paint on, and this one was the cheapest and had also the lowest alcohol level 😊.

Non of us had any need for a lots of “bubbles in our blood” 😊. She was going to move the day after and a bit early in the morning as well, and I was going to work. And this toast also was more a symbolic toast for us A toast for the time we had spent together as well as for the time we have in front of us 😊.

My daughter has this time arranged everything on her own. No help from mammi. She had found the apartment on her own, and arranged the moving with a separate moving car too. I don’t have a car at the moment, but she did find a solution on her own 😊. She has also packed and organized her things on her own, without interference from me. I’m just a mammi so it’s sometimes a bit to difficult to not interference, but I manage to “keep calm” 😅.

2/3 of my daughter’s things and stuff- organize without any interference from me 😊

We was both a bit tired of living together now. I think probably because we knew it was closer and closer to “the moving day”, and also because we are different. We arrange our home and life differently, something that’s also very natural, even we are mammi and daughter. But we are anyway in different stages in life.

It’s small things that can irritate us. Like for example what is mess in my eyes it’s not mess in her eyes. But all in all I need to say,- this living together period has went incredibly well. No fighting or yelling, just a bit “grumping” now and then 😊. And some of this “grumpiness” it’s my “mistake”. It’s this “menopause” and things that can irritate me for actually no reason 😳. I haven’t been like that before 🙄. But to be honest,- I think I have manage to “deal” with my grumpiness in a okay way, and my daughter too 😅. ( It’s going to be good to be grumpy totally alone now, no need for “put my self together” when I’m grumpy 😅).

Plants I have growing up for my daughter 🌱🍀

When my sons moved out their first time they got a basket each filled up with food and soft drinks for around 50 euro each. Food and soft drinks like juice, pasta, different sauces, snacks, ect.

When my daughter moved out her first time she didn’t get anything from me because we knew she was going to move back home for a while 6 months after. But when she moved out again the Autumn 2020 she (and her now ex-boyfriend) got 2 cava and the plan was also to give her (they) some plants I had been growing up for them. But because of the different restrictions I didn’t manage to give the plants to her before she suddenly was back home to my home again. But this time she got the plants with her in the moving car 😊.

To have some plants in the home create the home a bit more homely, and plants creates also a different and good atmosphere 🌳. At least I think so 😊. And plants in their own way represented “growing” 🌞.

I did gave my daughter something else too, as “a moving out gift”, a bit like a kind of a basket filled up with food, but instead of a basket filled up with food she actually got a “food box” where I have put away 5 euro for every week we has been living together this time ( it became 13 weeks) , and I also put a notebook and a pen into the box📝.

As a single mammi I have in general needed to think economic, and one of my economic priorities has been how I shop food. In general I shop food once a week, and I actually have a “food box” in my kitchen with the weekly amount I/ we in general need for food. And then I write down on a shopping list what’s necessary to buy for the next week of food and drinks.

In general this has function very well, except from the last 18 months when I have had a lots of “moving in and out” traffic in my home 😊. It’s not easy to “balance” the food, drinks and money to use when there are different types of people living in my home 😊. But this is actually a good way, at least for me, to have a bit control over the economy.

And I have tried to learn my children this tiny little “trick” of saving money too 😊.

My daughter’s new “food box” to have in her kitchen and keep the weekly amount of “food money” and a pen and a note book to write down what she need to buy for the next week. And 2 sweet chocolate bars too and a matchbox is always good to have 😊 And 7 plants as well to her new apartment 😊.

I’m not rich on money, but I’m creative 😊. And my daughter was very happy and grateful for this “Congratulations with your new home” gift from me 😊.

Ps 1- my first days “on my own” has not yet been on my own 😊. My oldest son, his friend and my son’s dog dropped by, and then a friend of me dropped by after they had left 😊. And Ps 2- I’m really looking forward to get a bit control over my own “food box” in my kitchen again, as well as be able to save a bit on both the electricity and water too now- it is what it is to live together with someone else, but I’m looking forward to get a bit more control over my own economy again 😊.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

My daughter’s “food box” to her new kitchen 😊📝

Me and my daughter had a symbolic toast together the evening before she moved out 🥂. A blue toast for new adventures 😊. And she also got some tiny “Congratulations with your new home” gifts from me, maybe symbolic in their own way? 😊📝🌳 Plants for “growing” and a “food box” for economy ? 😊.

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Then pink it is 🎨😊

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

It’s often during hard and difficult time and situations we really see, feel and experience who our real friends are. And during December 2020 I did see who really was my daughter’s friends. Not all of them, but some of the closest she has here in Spain. She have some great and close friends in Norway too. And also a couple more here in Spain, but there’s two young women that has been around my daughter a bit more then others during the lasts months 😊.

The circumstances my daughter was in during December is not something she has shared with “all and everyone”, but I was allowed to write about it from my point of view as a mammi during a situation like that. And she also went to some good friends of her here in Spain for some great and supporting conversations 💛.

Like I mention, there’s special two of her friends that’s has taken a bit extra good care for my daughter during the lasts months, and I wanted to share my gratefulness for being there for her during a not the easiest period in her life. So I have painted one bottle each to them, and in pink. Because both of her friends favourite colour is pink 🎨.

Two painted winebottles with a “touch” of pink 🎨

I like to give, give people I care about something that shows them how grateful I’m for having them in me and my children’s life in some or another way. To give I don’t necessarily mean give gifts. It can be serving a nice meal, or just let them feel very welcome in my home with some tasty snacks and good drinks and good conversations, or let them borrow my air if they need to talk, give a good hug, or some other kind of attention. But it can also be small gifts like a painting, a knitted scarf or a painted glassbottle. It’s depends a bit on the different situations and also the people I’m together with.

I like to share and show that I presage my friends and family. I’m not good enough to show how much I care about my family in Norway, but there’s some suprices for them all “under process” too 🥰.

And I really wanted to share this two young women, my daughter’s friends who my I presage the time they have spent together with my daughter the lasts months 🧡. Anc then it became too oil painted winebottles with a touch of pink colour 🎨.

The painted winebottle to a young woman called Megan 🧡 without lights inside.
The same painted winebottle with lights inside 🕯.

One of her friends have also been “babysitting” my daughter a couple of times during the last months 😅. Sounds probably a bit strange since my daughter is actually 20 year old 😊. But I had just started my own “travel” in my own life when my daughter moved back home in a hurry, and I just needed a tiny bit time alone during this time as well. A bit “adult- time”, a bit just “Laila- time”. Sounds maybe a bit selfish, but I think maybe someone who already has been through the “children- moving- out” process and actually did like their new adult time and the life on their own, know what I’m mean, without being a bad mammi 😊.

One of my daughter’s friend got also some knitted stuff like a hat, scarf and elf- sock. And her dog got a blanket and a scarf too 😊. As “Thank you” for “babysitting” my daughter 😊.

My daughter has no hard feelings for this “babysitting” situation 😊. We had talked about this, and we both needed a bit time a part from each too 😊. It’s just a bit fun to call it for “babysitting”, because I have actually asked for a tiny bit time “off” for being a mammi and time for just be me, the adult me where just my “needs” was in focus for a tiny bit while 😊. And a timeout from being a mammi create me also to a better mammi 😊. Even when the children are young adults 🧡.

The other winebottle without any lights inside 😊 This is to a young woman called Cecillie 🎨
The winebottle with lights inside 🕯. Not the best video, but better then nothing 😊.

I hope you too have some great people, family and friends in your life you know are there, will be there for you,- special during difficult times, as well as good times 🧡.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡. Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

Then it became two pink painted winebottles for two of my daughter’s close friends here in Spain 💛. Because I wanted to show them how much I presage the time they have use together with my daughter during a bit challenging time for her 💚.

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Happy Valentine’s day 💘

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

It’s already Valentine’s day again, and I feel the last one, last year was closely just around the corner 😊. It’s strange how fast the time goes at the moment. It’s like the days, weeks and months just flys away at the same time as there’s not to much that’s happen….except from corona and Covid19, and all the different restrictions we need to follow because of this. Anc maybe a bit more 😊.

I’m actually not use to “celebrate” Valentine’s day. It took a long time before this day was a day when we gave each other some romantic attention 😊. First time they ( a Norwegian newspaper) tried to give Valentine’s day a kind of attention was in 1887, without to much luck. Then they (this time the mail company) tried to give this day a kind of attention again in 1998 as well as in 1999, also this time without to much luck 💘.

In 2004 70% of the people in Norway still didn’t knew what Valentine’s day was. But in 2010 this day started to be a bit important day for couples. And in 2015 actually 73 % of the people knew what Valentine’s day was 💘.

I’m not sure when I started to give Valentine’s day my attention, but probably one time inbetween 2004 and 2010. In general I haven’t “celebrate” Valentine’s day very much, because in general I have been single this day. But I gave my kids a tiny bit attention when Valentine’s day started to be more popular in Norway. My kids got a tiny card, hearts and chocolate from me. They are anyway my biggest love in my life,- so why not give them a tiny little Valentine’s day attention? 💘

I have got some attention myself now and then like a red rose, a card or a Valentine’s day regards. I have also been invited out for Valentine’s day and when the Valentine’s day arrived my date actually did cancel the invitation and the date 😳.

But last year, last Valentine’s day was actually really, really nice. I was invited out for a cozy and nice dinner, red wine and a red rose and even a bit of attention too 🥰. It was a really nice experience and nice to experience Valentine’s day like that. I think it’s the best Valentine’s day I have experienced so fare in my life,- maybe except from the Valentine’s day when I gave my kids a tiny bit extra attention 🥰. But that’s still different, last year was actually a bit about me. And I did like that, and I hope I maybe will be someone’s special “Valentine” again one day 💘. That would be nice 😊.

This year,- well,- I gave my daughter a tiny bit Valentine’s day attention with giving her a small painting with a painted heart 🎨🧡. It’s actually a bit cool painting I did painted in 2018. So it’s some years ago, but it’s still a cool painting 😌.

The painting I gave to my daughter this Valentine’s day 🥰.

I gave this to her because I think she need a tiny bit more “touch” of the believe in love then her brothers at the moment. But when that’s said, – my daughter is doing incredible well after her bad experiences in December 2020 😊.

I have got two Valentine’s day messenge today,- that was a nice “touch” over the day. The city borders are still closed, but I don’t know if I have been invited on a Valentine’s date today if they had been open.

Me and my daughter has had a nice day today with some work, and some “garden” things. It has been a touch of summer here in South of Spain today, so we have been fixing a bit with the plants and flowers and the patios outside 🌞. No date, no special romantic attention,- but still a very nice, cozy and relaxing day 😊.

I’m not sure why or when Valentine’s day started, but I know about 3 different stories from why, where and when the Valentine’s day started. One story is from the end of 1500. It is a story that the birds began to mate on this day.  Therefore, it has become a romantic marketing on love.  Another story is about a martyr named Valentine who signed his last love letter to his girlfriend with “your Valentine” before he died.  The third story is from the Roman celebration of the goddess Juno representing women and marriage.  And February 14 was the start of a week-long Roman fertility party.

I choose to believe there’s something from every story that has created the inspiration for the “celebration” of Valentine’s day we have today 🥰.

Valentine’s day is about love and romance that’s for sure. It can be the love for your children or a romantic date or attention to and from someone you like a bit extra, have a good eye too 😊.

I hope you are happy with your Valentine’s day with or without any specific romantic attention from anyone 💘. We can create nice days for us self too, even we are single and don’t have anyone special to date or get some romantic attention from 😊.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

This painting I gave to my daughter today as an Valentine’s day gift is in size 20*20 cm. A sweet, small painting- perfect to my daughter 🥰.

I don’t have any special “my Valentine” this year,- so I gave my daughter a bit attention instead 🥰. A painting with a sweet heart 💘. I hope you all have had a nice Valentine’s day with or without any specific romantic attention or a sweet date 💘. It’s possible to have a nice Valentine’s day even when you are single 😊.

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