And then it happened again…..10 years later 💸😳😔

Hi ❣It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

I’m not fine today,- what happens to me 10 years ago,- more and less at the same time as now, but still in a different way,- happen to me again yesterday. I was scammed or exposed to fraud. At the moment I’m not sure what’s the difference, or what word that’s correct,- I know probably that in a couple of days when my head is a bit more clear than today. And hopefully I’m a bit more calm down- I hope I will be more calm down.

And just so you know,- this is a bit long text….

I did never thought I should be in a situation like this again,- I’m so careful. I don’t use my credit card very much,- in general I like to use cash. And Ido very few online shopping as well.. And also I’m always sure I have enough money on my account to pay for the regular expenses before anything else. I don’t even go out for a coffee together with friends before I actually know I can effort it a with good conscience. I did promise my self that I was not going to get in the same situation as 10 years ago……but I didn’t manage to keep that promise. Here I’m.

I have considered a lot if I should tell you this or not,- special because of the judgment from other people- everyone who believes that everything that happens to everyone else can not happen to them. In a very strange way there’s many souls that are “protected” from a lots of different kinds of things, happenings and stuffs in life, and “nothing” can happen to them.

And I can’t actually handle that kind of judgement today. I can’t handle any “poor you” comments either.

I can’t handle to hear or read from someone else how stupid I’m, “blue eyed”, naive, gullible and so on and so on either. Believe me,- I have had many turns around myself today and really thought about what I could done different yesterday so my bank account wasn’t emptied. Yes,- you read correct- I have 7 euro left from closely 2000 euro. Saved up during the last six months. My salary, my savings from glassbottles sales and painting sales, savings from trying to be economic- and save up enough money to be able to pay for the moving of our things and stuffs from Norway. I was half way there,- but now I’m back to start again.

Maybe and hopefully I will get the money back because I did recognize that something wasn’t quite correct early in the process, but still I did recognize it a bit to late. After my bank account just contained 7 euro. The bank and the police don’t know if I will get my money back. And the police are actually not sure if they can help very much either,- something I can understand. Economic scamming are complicated and in general done by a big and complex network. Like I was exposed for today.

I know many people are in a much worse situation then I’m,- but still my situation doesn’t feel very good for me. And I know there are so many people in the same situation as I’m in today,- and that’s not because they are stupid or “blue eyed”, or “simple souls”, or without to much knowledge or gullible. And that’s why I did choose to tell you my story today,- because this can actually happen to everyone. And also,- last time, 10 years ago I didn’t tell anyone. Actually that’s not true,- I did try to tell some very few, but they turned their back to me. And I became a suicide candidate as well. Filled up with Shame and quilt. Short version why I turned to a suicide candidate 10 years ago: I had no idea to handle a fraud and a not very good partner at the same time, and I didn’t have anyone to talk to. The best solution seemed at that time to stop being in this world…..the challenge was- my kids- I’m still here because I couldn’t manage to leave them at the same time as I didn’t felt very much for living anymore either.

This time I’m not there,- I feel for living, but I’m not in the best place at the moment. And this time I don’t feel on shame, but despair. It has taken me a lots and offer of time to be able to save up this money- and in just a couple of hours when I was working they was gone.

So what did happen? How did I be exposed for a fraud yesterday? I’m going to try my very best to explain. And I do apologise if I forget something, I’m not myself today.

As some of you know our things and stuffs was delivered on my door this Monday. A bit unexpected, and a bit earlier then planned,- but okay. I had saved up half of the payment. Then I thought I should be effective and just “turn around” and sell the big things so I hopefully manage to save in a bit more for the moving transport. Actually more and less the rest what I’m missing.

I took photos and posted in a couple of sales online pages, and wow- it was a crazy response. I was so happy and a bit overwhelmed too. And I did felt a bit lucky as well. It actually seemed to go my way and I was going to be able to at least sell for around 1000 euro- instead I lots the twice.

There was 3 people in 3 different places in Spain that couldn’t pick up the things them self,- but wanted to organize “pick up” with FedEx, GLS and also something called Milanuncios. This last one is a buy and selling page in Spain. I didn’t knew they also delivered, but I don’t know all and everything in and about Spain. And I haven’t put my things for sale on this page either yet.

It showed also up a fourth delivery company too, and a fourth buyer- but at that time I had recognized that something was wrong. Maybe this fourth is a real thing, but I don’t know. It’s called Nacex Group. I haven’t checked it up.

4 people in 4 different places in Spain using 4 different delivery systems,- that’s possible, isn’t it? I know FedEx deliver from door to door, and I know GLS do too. But the thing is,- it was probably not the real deal of FedEx and GLS.

I have never used anything like this before so I don’t know how it works. But I got an explanation on email from 3 of them. Not quite similar actually, but still they needed my account and some of my credit card information to be able to transfer the money for the sale into my bank account. And my phone number and of course address as well for picking up the things. I also got a confirmation on email about date and time for picking up the things I had sold.

I gave the information about my bank account- two different accounts. I shouldn’t done that. And I did my job on my costumer service agent on the phone, and felt quite good actually. Some of the things was going to be picked up at 17. And some around 18.30. This was FedEx and GLS. This Milanuncios I did just gave up my address and phone number too, I felt I needed to find out if it was correct that this online selling and buying net page actually did delivered for people. But I couldn’t do that before after my job was finish.

I got different emails and texts on What’s up from Fedex and GLS, and the costumer as well, and tried my best to handle them inbetween my job. In the meantime the account with most of my money was tapped for money.

I have delivered it all to the police and the bank. I contacted them as soon as I registered that something wasn’t correct.

This person that “used” Fedex as a delivery company asked me to update him or her, I’m actually not sure if it was a he or she, when I had got the money into my account and the things was picked up around 17.00. This costumer I haven’t heard anything more from, but this FedEx are texting me a lot, and I can’t block them either because the police want to know what they are texting me.

And then it’s something they called simulation payment and wanted me to do a simulation payment so they new it was my account and me the money went to. Like a kind of verification. I don’t know what I simulation payment is- but the police could confirm that some companies use this kind of payment. For real, the bank confirmed it as well. But still I’m not sure what it is. It’s a kind of verification for to know that the seller is the credit card owner.

And this GLS was a lady in Sevilla, she texted me a lot. I have blocked her now.

In FedEx the sales was for around 500 euro and in GLS actually 630 euro.

But in some way they both suddenly told me that I was going to get 880 euro into my bank account. Two different persons, two different delivery companies, the same amount- I knew that was not correct.

When I did recognized that my bank account was empty and not with more money I asked FedEx, what did happen? And then it was this simulation payment, but I was going to get my money back,- 880 euro. They have empty my account for a bit more then 880 euro.

The lady wrote to me, wanted me to hurry up with different kinds of confirmation about the delivery and also wrote to me that I was going to get 880 euro into my account. That was not correct. And at time I was also starting to try to minimize the economic damage and situation, and was in contact with both the bank and the police.

I know FedEx deliver and pick up, but I don’t know how it is in function the payment from the costumer, or the payment to the costumer. You can call me stupid and “blue eyed”, gullible or a “simple soul”,- but don’t tell it to me. Tell it to yourself in your head. I have more than enough to handle myself now at days then also some other peoples judgement about that “I should knew better”. And I’m actually not sure how I could knew this better either. I have never used FedEx, I have not sold anything online in Spain before and I know it’s necessary to give my account information if I want to have money into it- but unfortunately that kind of information also can put you in a totally different and opposite situation as well- like I’m in now at days.

I know that 2000 euro maybe aren’t a lots of money for some people,- but for me it’s a bit actually. And it has been a lots of work for me to even get then, save them up.

There are so many different ways to pay for things in today’s society and to be honest I’m not familiar with most of them. And as more everything becomes more and more technical and more and more safe and secure, and even “easier” to use with all the different codes and things- for me it all seems and feels more and more unsecured and unsafe.

I have tried my very best to tell you what happen. I’m not in a very good place now at days- I don’t know what to do. And I’m really asking you to not write any comments to this text- I’m not in a place where I can handle negative comments at the moment.

And to be honest,- I feel it’s a kind of curse that lies over me when it comes to money and me and being exposed to fraud .I feel destroyed. I don’t know why this happens to me. I admit I feel like the worst person that in some or another way need to get this kind of treatment. Maybe I do deserve this? But I’m not sure why I do- but obviously I do. I feel I can work and work and work and try to save up. I’m not sure what wrong I have done in my life,- but today it feels like I have done something very wrong and need to get the punishment I deserve. I feel like a not very good human og person because this things happen- it’s probably a reason.

It will be a while until I’m writing in my blog again now- I’m not in a good place and need to try my very best to put myself together in one or another way. I’m not a suicide candidate this time- but I’m not in a very good place either. All my work, all my savings are gone. And I need to try to pick myself up again in one or another way- but at the moment I don’t know how.

It is not so easy to distinguish what is false and real In this online and technical world we live in.

I tell you my story because it so easy to be scammed and be exposed for fraud in today’s society- but still there are so many people who are judges and looks down on people who are exposed to this. I know there will probably be more then enough people who want to tell me “why, how, you should have done this and that and ect instead”. At least I did contact the police as soon as I understood something wasn’t correct, and the same with my bank.

I tell you my story, but I don’t like to tell it- sometimes it’s just necessary to tell things that’s happen in life, but aren’t good.

And ps- when I was writing my story I got a new sale- but this one needed to use DHL for delivery. I don’t know if this is a real sale- probably not.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you when I’m in a bit better place in my life 🤞🙏

All my small savings in a “just in case” box in my kitchen- and this one will be good to have now at days.

I’m not sure what to say,- but I’m not in a very good place now at days. The today’s society with all kinds of different payments possibilities and all the different security systems- that should make our life easier also makes it so much easier to be exposed for different kinds of frauds. Like I was yesterday. And then it all makes it all so much more difficult then easy,- that’s for sure.

#fraud #scam #destroying #nofilter #shame #quill #confusing #notinagoodplace #savingmoney #doingmybest #money #challenges #difficult #feelings #sale #economi #thougths

My daughter’s story: I didn’t leave it like that 🧹🧼😊🏡

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

As some of you know,- the apartment my daughter did lived in/ rented together with Nathaniel Caprino looked not very nice when we was there to pick up her clothes, things and stuff. And it has been very difficult to get in contact with the owner of the apartment.

Nathaniel Caprino wouldn’t give my daughter the number to the owners and he had destroyed the rental contract too. And as maybe some of you also know- my daughter’s mobile is “out of function”, so it was a bit difficult to find and get the owners number and information and at least give back the keys to their apartment. Also the rental estate agent and company was difficult to find because my daughter didn’t remember the name or had the number.

But did you think I left the apartment like we did find it? No- I didn’t. And of course not- for me it is ” of course not”- it’s something about responsibility and respect for the apartment and the owners to the apartment.

I did my very best to clean up the mess- take good care of the apartment so the owner situations should at least be a bit easier for them to handle.

I went back to the apartment some days later and started cleaning up- everything. It’s not the “funniest” job I have done- but in my mind it needed to be done. Also because it started to came bugs in the food garbage and the dish wash sink and that could destroy the apartment. I started to clean around 17.00 in the afternoon and I was finish cleaning around 24.00 in the night 😴. And I walked back to my home- I need to try to save some money – it had been some weeks with some unexpected expenses for me as well lately. So I have walking a bit up and down to the apartment- got some fresh air and exercises at least 😅.

Me on the way to my daughter’s old apartment with a big backpack on my back- ready to clean up someone else’s mess and shit….and yes- I’m incredibly tired now at days,- as you can see 😴.

Some have asked me why I did cleaned up my daughter’s apartment, and for example not my daughter together with a friend did it. My daughter is still struggling with long Covid19, her energy level is not on the highest at the moment, and this “situation” NC have “put” her in has not been easy for her to handle either. But at the same time I need to say I’m incredibly impressed and proud over how good she handles things too 🧡.

I used many hours to clean up, and I did washed everything and everywhere except from the roof and the walls. Well,- I did cleaned the wall around the kitchen.

Look at the kitchen now 😊
And before I started 😔
The bedroom after I was finish cleaning- nice, isn’t it?😊
Not the best photos from the bedroom before- but still it’s a bit better after I did cleaned up.
The bathrooms before I did cleaned up- not the best photos- but nice “after photos” 😊
And the bathrooms after a good scrub 🧼
And the livingroom became cozy as well 😊
But before- phu- but okay,- it looked nice when I was finish 😊

So how did I manage to get the number to the owners? Well,- NC actually did sent it with a mistake to my daughter- it was on a photo he forgot to remove the number from.

So then I sent a message to the owner, told them very shortly that I had the keys to their apartment. They gave me the number to the real estate agent, but he contacted me before I manage to contact him. And wow,- he was angry- something I really can understand- I manage to calm him down and did explain the situation and also sent him photos both from before I cleaned the apartment as well as after. And also the police report and the the summons to the trial.

He has picked up the keys so I don’t need to have anything “hanging over” me when it comes to the apartment anymore- that feels good 😊. Two more thing are finish – the cats have got a new home, and the owners has got the keys to their apartment. Two less things to deal with in this “case and situation” 😊. And that feels actually great 😊.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

And garbage- well,- it became a bit garbage too- but I took it all with me when I did closed and locked the door to a clean apartment.

After hours of cleaning after someone else’s mess, shit and dirt I need to admit I’m pretty pleased with the results 😊. You can see how nice it became in my post 😊.

#cleaningup #mydaugther #mydaugthersstory #beingamammi #lifeis #respect #responsibility #lifeis #challenges #NathanielCaprinoEngbråten #caprinomusic #Nathanielcaprino #destroying #nofilter #results #gettheworkdone #apartment #douchebag #garbage

My daughter’s story: And then it was the cats 🐈🐱

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

Luckily there’s no kids involved in my daughter’s story, but unfortunately there was two small cats, two kittens. And animals here in Spain, all animals, but special the animals that lives together with people, like a family member, is here in Spain also treated like a family member by the law.

My daughter loves animals- but is special “weak” for cats 🥰🐱🐈. And one day NC did find two kittens on the street and brought them home to her, or maybe himself? I’m actually not sure- Im actually not sure why he took them at all, but I know my daughter was not ready for any cats in the home as a part of the family at that moment, and the responsibility to take care of an animal. And after this experience she have been through lately she maybe never will be either. To have that kind of responsibility on the top of having the responsibility for herself.

Two kittens looking for a new home

NC said it was his cats and sometimes theirs cats, but the responsibility for the cats became my daughter’s. But why he took this cats home- I have still no idea. I did never quite “catch” that one- but is was something about “having a “family” and make my daughter happy”.

She wasn’t to happy for this, and on top of that she was starting to not feel very well either. It was Covid19 that was starting to “dumble” around in her body, but she didn’t knew that on that time- but a week later she was “out of function” because of illness.

One of the kitten NC brought home and didn’t take any responsibility for.

I told my daughter to get rid of the cats. Put then back on the street so they maybe could find back their cat mammi, or give them to someone else. But she didn’t have a heart to do that, not either energy at that point to try to find a new home for this two cats.

She never felt is was her cats, because it wasn’t her disission. And, like I mention, she was also starting to feel not very well. But she took as good care for the cats as she could.

And it’s costs money to have and take care of an animal, and there’s a responsibility when it comes to food, catsand, veterinary, vaccine, chip and so on. It’s not just to “have” two cats- and special not here in Spain. Like I mention- a animal that lives in your home is treated like a family member and protected by the law. And special if it comes to abuse of any kind.

The two kittens my daughter a bit unexpected got the responsibility for

Like I have mention earlier in some of my textes- we do find out of things when it comes to this Nathaniel Caprino, but unfortunately not as fast as we sometimes should.

When my daughter moved back home to me he needed to take care of and have the responsibility for the kittens himself. I’m not allowed to have cats in my home, only dogs, because the owner is allergic to cats.

After a while we did find out that the cats has probably been in the apartment alone without anyone looking after them or taking care of them for at least 5 days. The police was reported, but I’m not sure how NC did find out of this report- but obviously he did. Because he went back to the apartment and them picked up the cats and “run off” again in a Uber with the cats before anyone manage to stop him. And posted this in Instagram- just in case. Where he did run to? To another girl, who got used by NC too. They are not in contact with each other anymore. She is also working on a case to “take him down” because of the situation he brought her into.

Here he is- running away with the cats so it should be more difficult for my daughter to prove that the cats was not taking care of.

That’s another thing NC does now at days ( he has probably done this before and then many, many times too)– “creating” fake stories on his Instagram account and Snapchat account- and that’s how we know that he has been “travelling” around to Asia, Barcelona, Greece, Netherlands and this last trip- to Munich in Germany- where he did put a story photo from a flight window with the AETA from Munich- MUC. But he is actually in Malaga now at days and trying to “get” a vaccine pass. It’s a bit difficult to “just” travel to another country these days without any vaccine pass or a approved negative Covid19 test. And his passport number as well as his NIE number is also in the police report- the police translator put all that information into the report.

A part of his Instagram story this weekend….

Like I also mentioned- he has “blocked” my “access” to his Instagram account- but he is “friends” with so many people, and some of this people are friends with us, but he doesn’t know that- and they “updates” us, my daughter and we/ she update the police.

Sometimes he “gives” my daughter “updates” in some or another social media channel too, for then to just block her again. Why he does this- I’m actually not sure.

But he is a bit “slow” too, because it was not before this Friday he actually was aware about the law case he needs to be in this upcoming week, and that the police report from my daughter is actually for real- not any empty threat. The police has sent him letter about this law case in an email to him some weeks ago, but still he obviously didn’t think it was anything seriously.

And yes,- unfortunately there’s now a new girl, a new “wallet” he is using too. But we don’t know who the girl is, her name, or where she lives, probably in Malaga some place, but it’s a bit difficult to warn her when we don’t know. But this is also information from some sosial media channel story. Maybe to try to make my daughter jealous? Well,- that’s not going to happen,- she is just very happy he is not a part of her life anymore.

After my daughter moved away from him- this new girl in Malaga is the second girl he is “using as a wallet”. The first one we have got in contact with- and she threw him out of her home when she was aware about the situation.

Well,- back to the cats- he run away with the cats- and we now know that he moved them into this first girl’s apartment. But at that point she didn’t knew about “all this mess”- and he had “served” her a very “teardropping” story too.

One of the small kittens

And then suddenly one day he texted my daughter and told her that she could pick up the cats in their old apartment- suddenly they was “all hers”.

She couldn’t take the cats, so we tried to call different animal control and rescue service senters, friends and veterinarian. Also contacted the police about the situation. It was very difficult to get some help, surprisingly difficult considering the law that will protect the animals here, and the law of punishment if you do not take good care of the animal 😳. Luckily some neighbours in the street chose to take care of the cats, but it took a couple of days to manage arranged that one too.

The kittens got a new home- but it took a bit more time then we did excepted

My daughter told me then that she would probably never have a cat, because it was to much,- to much of everything. Emotions, work and responsibilities.

As you maybe “see” , even I just manage to tell you parts of my daughter’s story- this NC is a very confusing young man to be sourrende by. And it’s difficult to tell you all and everything- that’s why you just get parts from the story.

But soon this story is finally finish from my daughter’s life. And she can look forward to so many nice, new and exciting adventures in her life 🧡.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

“I’m looking for a new home- but it was very difficult to find a new home”

Luckily there was no children involved in my daughter’s story- but there was two small kittens 🐈🐱. Two kittens that is protected by the law as a family member here in Spain- but still so very difficult to get some help to get a new and caring home for them 🏠.

#cats #familymember #law #protection #mydaugther #mydaugthersstory #newfamily #beingamammi #lifeis #challenges #NathanielCaprinoEngbråten #caprinomusic #Nathanielcaprino #nofilter

My daughter’s story: The physical or the mental? 🤔

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

Is there any differences between being exposed for physical violence and mental violence? Some will say yes and some will say no- but that’s because we have different experiences. And it happens in different ways too, and of course there’s also a time issue about how long the violence has been going on as well.

My daughter say “yes” it’s a different, a big one too,- and she have probably the best experiences to have an opinion about this because she has experienced both during a year. But of course- both types of violence destroy you in one or another way.

I don’t know- because I have “just” experienced the mental one.

What I do know about the mental one is that it’s very difficult to “prove” to other people around you. Family, close friends. In general they recognize changes with you, but at the same time it’s also difficult for them to “catch up” the changes, put a finger on it, and also “get through” to you with different questions. It’s also “easy” for the one who is exposed for the mental violence and abuse to “hide” it,- and it’s so difficult to explain it as well. Explain to people around what actually happens. Because you can’t “prove” it.

And little by little, slowly, step by step it’s like you losing your self, your life, your mind, your identity, who you actually are or was before you met this “mental violence” guy.

You get confused and shameful, unsure and in a way losing the direction in your life. It’s a bit like being “poisoned” in your brain, heart and soul- little by little, and in a way you don’t recognize the poison before it’s “to late”- before you are “sick”- mentally.

You can try to “explain” the mental with using different “examples”- but still it’s difficult, and some of the examples can even sound strange or be difficult for others to understand.

But when someone beat you up,- you actually have proff that “all and everyone” can see. At the same time as you can “excuse” and “explain” the blue, yellow and purple- colours on your body. Fallen down the stairs, walked on a door, and things like that.

The physical and the mental violence- one you can see and feel, the other one you can feel- but still both destroys the soul in one or another way.

My daughter didn’t go to the police station to report, when she was exposed for the physical violence- but everyone around her reccomend her to do it. But she felt on guilt that maybe Simon was correct? That it was her own mistake? Maybe she had used a bit to much time then necessary together with another man? Just talking with a friend, but still? Or could she had sent out some “wrong” signals to someone?

The wounds, bruises and swelling healed over time and in a way my daughter did too.  But she was afraid to go out on the street alone.  Afraid to meet Simon.  Maybe he was going to hit her again?  Because she ended the relationship?  Because she told what had happened to the management at work?  Because she started considering going to the police ?

But after a while, little by little, slowly she wasn’t so worried anymore. And the physical marks on her body was gone too.

Just some few photos from the day my daughter was beaten up: bumps several places in her head, hand grips mark on her arms and legs after Simon holding her and dragging her around in the apartment, swollen hand, cigarette mark in her face.

“Everyone” had a kind of understanding and did support my daughter in so many ways after the physical violence. Everyone could see the different marks Simon had left in her body. They could understand why she was worried.

And during this Spring she also met Nathaniel Caprino Engbråten. And he did show even more “understanding” for my daughter’s story and the physical violence that Simon had exposed her for, because his “story” was even more “teardropping ” then hers.

He told her, and like I mention, me as well, about a childhood with a lots of violence, drugs- and alcohol by his parents, no Christmas celebrations, no birthday parties, no money to food and so on- just so, so sad. And his dad did beat him and his mom so much that both was very close to die.

Of course this can be true- I don’t know- I haven’t checked it up with his mom- yet. I have got the contact information to his mom now- but not from NC- I manage that in an other way. But I’m not sure if I should contact her or not- the relation between her son and my daughter is over,- even it’s still a bit more to “take care of ” because of the relation they had.

My daughter has nightmares now, she didn’t had any nightmares after Simon- she “just” didn’t felt very safe when she was walking on the street- but in general she did sleep during the nights.

Now she had nightmares- they actually did started before she moved away from NC. They started when she was sick with Covid19 and have just continued following her.

It’s difficult for her to explain concretely how she feels and what’s happen in her mind during the days and weeks. But like I did mention in another text- she feel very strongly on this “stolen life”- her life was stolen from her. NC in a mysterious way did manage to not just steal physical from her like her money and some of her things- but also something inside her- something that she in the best way can describe as “he stole my whole life”. She did never felt Simon stole her whole life- he “just” created a worrying that slowly went over.

And like I mention- my daughter is struggling with long Covid19 and then it’s not so easy to “take care” of all and everything, or get a kind of overview over the situation. A very confusing situation because he did lie so much that it is so difficult to find out what’s true or not.

Even it was “easier” for my daughter to “show” the police the physical violence Simon did, because they was on her body as well as she had an emergency report, and also neighbours that could confirm that “things had happened” in that apartment. Neighbours could confirm sounds of crying and yelling, glass that’s broke and so on- she didn’t went to the police. Even there was so many evidence that she had the law on her page.

But she did go to the police this time- even the evidence are so much differently and more difficult to “show”, and needs to be “collected” in an other way as well. Thing takes more time to “prove” this time. And there’s so much too.

One thing was that all her money was gone- but I think this really awful feelings NC has left inside her was and is so much worse then the wounds, bruises and swelling Simon left on her body.

And the police has been great- they did meet her in a so nice and confident way. They showed her that they believed her, they took her seriously- and she was also lucky with the police translator- in a situation like this she needed to have a translator so “all and everything” was reported in a correct manner and way.

We have been here a couple of times during the last month- and the police is doing a great job for my daughter- that’s for sure.

NC had actually run of from the NIE bill and the police translator. He haven’t payed for anything- just ran off when he got his legal number. (NIE is the Spanish personal number we need to have here in Spain so we can live and work in a legal way).

The police translator had even more information that my daughter had about different things when it came to NC. And you can say the police translator also want to “take him down”.

I know it sounds awful to want to “take someone down” – but sometimes it’s, unfortunately, like that.

For some reasons it was easier for my daughter to report mental abuse than physical abuse.

And I’m so glad she did, and I’m so grateful for the way the police has met her, how they follow her up, her case and situation. And I know- if someone do anything to my daughter in the future it’s so much easier for her to report it now, because of the experiences she have with the police and the report, the whole situation.

It will be so much easier for her to go to the police another time. Well,- to be honest,- I really hope there will not be “another time”- it feels like this last 12 months with this kind of experiences are enough for a while.

I’m so grateful for that my daughter is taken so good care of from the police as well as family and friends during this time and situation. I lost friends and family when I went through something similar many years ago, and the police closed my case.  They reopened it in again in September 2014 – but after that I have not heard much more. I try to not think very much about “my situation- my case” in all this- but yes- I need to admit I have had a couple of “relapse in my mind” during this period. But that’s my story and it’s not much to use my time on or to tell about anymore. Life goes on 😊.

My daughter’s got wounds, bruises and swelling colour in blue, red, purple and yellow- outside on her body as well as inside of her body. The wounds, bruises and swelling outside her body is healed,- but the wounds, bruises and swelling inside her heart, soul and brain will take a bit longer time before the will heal.

This is her experiences from physical violence and mental violence, and how she did “deal” and “feel” with them- but experiences from this and the way out from the experiences is different from person to person. How to handle things is different from person to person.

A person who have been beaten physically the abuser goes to jail, but not the one who has beaten up someone mentally. Because of the “evidence situation”.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

A “palette” can also be on your body as well as I your soul- coloured up with different colours. Different colours for different experiences.

My daughter’s got wounds, bruises and swelling colour in blue, red, purple and yellow- outside on her body as well as inside of her body. The wounds, bruises and swelling outside her body is healed,- but the wounds, bruises and swelling  inside her heart, soul and brain will take a bit longer time before the will heal.

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My daughter’s story: One honest and one dishonest douchebag 🙄😶

Hi ❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

A year ago my daughter was beaten blue, yellow and purple- by her very jealous and suspicious ex- boyfriend, Simon.

She moved back to my home in a hurry, and I took her to the emergency. It was necessary. She looked a bit like a colour palette with some different colour spots “here and there and everywhere” over her body.

My palette with some of the colours my daughter’s body was “coloured” up with a year ago.

Simon is something I in my mind, and now to you too, call “an honest douchebag”. Why? Well,- he was a douchebag because he couldn’t manage to control his jealousy and anger, and he was so suspicious. He thought my daughter was unfaithful “all the time”. If she was 5 minutes to late home he was pretty sure she had “jumped around in the bushes” together with an other man. And one evening he couldn’t control him self anymore and did beat up my daughter….for hours.

Their home didn’t look not very nice either, because he had threw different things on her and after her when she did try to escape from him. Bottles, glasses and lamps. She tried to escape from him, but he hold her back and dragged her around on the floor.

Of course she was very scared and afraid. But she did also felt on quilt because in some or another way she felt it was her mistake that had made him so angry.

My oldest son did picked her up on the street after she did manage to escape from the apartment. And the apartment looked not very nice.

Some few photos from the apartment- my oldest son and his friend took this when they later the same day after picked up my daughter and brought her home to me, went back to the apartment to pick up some of my daughter’s things, like clothes, shoes and toilet bag.

A week or two after my daughter had moved out from the apartment and from Simon, a friend of her went together with her to pick up the rest of her things and stuffs. And Simon had cleaned up all that what was destroyed, washed my daughter’s things and stuffs, and even put and packed them down nicely in bags.

He did pay for the rent, but chose to move from the apartment after some few months because the rent became to much for him to pay on his own. But he paid and he moved out nice and quiet.

In his own way he tried to “fix it”- but he still couldn’t admit that he had a problem with controlling his anger, and he did still blamed my daughter for what’s happen that evening and night. But still I will say he was an honest man- still a douchebag, but an honest douchebag. And Im calling NC a very dishonest douchebag. Why?

Well,- for the first NC- Nathaniel Caprino Engbråten took her keys to the apartment from my daughter and wouldn’t give her any kind of access to pick up the rest of her things.

It took closely two weeks and a threat about the police before he hide the apartment keys outside, took a movie where he had hidden them and sent this to my daughter. So she could pick them up there.

I went to the apartment together with her, and I did warn her before we locked us into the apartment. My feelings told me that it couldn’t be a very nice “sight” that was waiting for us behind the door- and I was correct.

I feel that the photos gives a nicer impression then what it actually was.
Food, garbage and clothes everywhere
A mess in closely every room
How old this food was- I don’t know, and garbage after his steorider- injections….

NC had run away from/ moved out from the apartment like this, and he didn’t pay the rent either, or the electricity or for the water. And for a guy that didn’t have any money he had manage to eat a lot, drink and create a lots of garbage 😳.

But it’s probably some else money, from someone else credit card information that has paid for all this.

All his things was gone, his clothes and shoes, and of course some of my daughter’s things too. All her towels and duvets, pillows and bed clothes was gone. Her x- box and games was gone and a couple of more things. I don’t remember it all, but she does.

And “just in case” he had squeezed her clothes into cat shit and cat pee. Also burned some of her clothes as well with cigarettes and destroyed them.

Some of her clothes squeezed on the floor in cat shit and cat pee- it wasn’t the easiest things to pack when so much was so dirty as it was.

So maybe you now understand why I call one an honest douchebag and the other one an dishonest douchebag?

We manage to take with us my daughter’s things and stuffs and left the apartment. We “moved” in a big Uber box car 😅. Because I don’t have a car. It’s has been a couple of Uber and taxi trips lately- and sometimes even some unexpected one too, and in a bit hurry as well, because we needed to go to the police station.

But like my daughter mention in my last post- her story, this story, is not finish- it’s coming some more.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you are 🧡 Thank you so much for using your time and dropping by my blog today 🧡

See you soon 😊

How can someone leave someone else’s place, apartment, property like this? It’s disrespectful.

It’s a different between a honest douchebag and an dishonest douchebag. My daughter manage to meet them both during one year 🙄. Some people just “run away” from all and everything- don’t show any respect or responsibility. And some actually do try, in their own way to “fix it”.

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